Just between me, you, and everybody else reading this: why WERE you looking through your internet history? Were you trying to find information that perhaps your boyfriend was cheating on you? Just curious because I don't think most people surf through their internet history just for the hell of it.
Maybe that's just me.
As far as what you should do, the direct approach is best. Don't beat around the bush and try to pry that information out of him. Ask him straight up why he was looking at a video of his ex-girlfriend online. (So wait, she has posted videos online, like on Xtube or something? Kinky.) Not sure what he could say, but unless he comes clean and gives you a quality apology and guarantee that he won't do it again (which you can never really tell - now he knows you check his internet history), you might have to make some decisions. I don't know that this is necessarily a breakupworthy event, but I can see how that might make you want to take some time to think about your relationship. Guys often get into porn and it makes their girlfriends uncomfortable. But this is different. This is somebody he knows personally. Somebody perhaps attainable again.
Make him come clean and then decide what you want to do from there. There's no reason to let this ride. And if anything, this is a way to talk about why he feels a need to do that and about what he feels he's missing that would make him feel the need to retreat to internet videos of an ex as opposed to coming to you for his needs, whatever they may be. You all might spin it into a convo about how to strenghten your own relationship - best case scenario.
As far as whether or not its normal...absolutely not. Well, let me rephrase, it probably happens more often than you think, but in an ideal world it shouldn't be normal. With the rise of homemade sexual tapes and videos and people's reluctance to delete such videos, I wouldn't be surprised if lots of guys don't surf their video files for home videos of exes.
Wonder how he'd like her watching her ex boyfriend Jack off?!
FYI- I look in my browsing history fairly frequently... say, once a week. I am usually trying to remember the name of a page I used and forgot to save.
i agree with Caitlin, we can atleast give the benefit of the doubt that she might have been looking for a page that she went to and couldn't remember it's name, and noticed something out of the ordinary. i'm the only person who ever uses my computer, and i do that regularly. she could have been snooping, and she just as easily could hav not have been. we can also give him a lttle bit of lee way, if he was doing something wrong you might think he would have been smart enough to delete his internet histor, it is possible that this girls sent him a link and he clicked on it without knowing what it was, possible maybe not likely, but possible, especially if she's intent on getting him back, or causing harm to the relationship. so basically she could be a snoop, and he a cheat, or they could both have valid explanations
Shoot, it can be even more innocent. My browsers start auto-filling the webpage address when I start typing in the address bar and to make it "worse" you can usually do a google search in the address bar!
She could have been starting to put in a search for pants and the URL was something like: site/{exgirlfriend}-with-no-pants-on-super-hot
Just take a quick look at the URL for this answer! Lots of detail sometimes in those things.
I hate to be a harbinger of bad news, but...one of my ex-boyfriends had pictures of his ex masturbating. If I remember correctly he refused to get rid of them. He eventually cheated on me with her and with someone else. But then, he was an a**hole in many ways and perhaps this guy isn't so bad.
I hate situations like this because if she approaches him about it, he'll likely just divert the attention away from what se's seen and focus on the face that she violated his privacy. Yes, what she did was wrong, but it doesn't cancel out the fact that, not only does he still have video of his ex mastubating, he still watches it.
I hate situations like this because if she approaches him about it, he'll likely just divert the attention away from what se's seen and focus on the face that she violated his privacy. Yes, what she did was wrong, but it doesn't cancel out the fact that, not only does he still have video of his ex mastubating, he still watches it.
Lol, I wouldn't even "confront" him about it (at least in the conventional sense). I mean, you totally knew it was him...unless it was you watching a video of his ex masturbate.
I'd probably ask him why he watched that one specifically.
OR OR OR, better yet, delete it, but don't tell him. Hilarious!!!! He might try to retrieve it again only to find it has been deleted--what a conundrum for him!!! Do you think he'd confront YOU about it? "Hey, did you delete that vid I had of my ex masturbating?"
Hahahahha.
Personally . . . I would forward that video to everyone on HIS e-mail list (yes his mom, sister, boss, best friend), everyone you know who knows her, and everyone on my own e-mail list - (they need to know what's going on too) Maybe even You-Tube too. If nothing else she might learn some good reasons NOT to send him these videos in the future. She will also likely blame him for the unauthorized distribution. And somehow, I think, your boyfriend's feelings toward her will change dramatically once the ENTIRE WORLD gets to see this 'private side of her.'
And, as was pointed out above, I highly doubt he's going to confront YOU about this, and if he does I'd say I thought it was sent as a joke on since it SHOWED UP ON MY COMPUTER!
Lol, you are an absolute idiot.
it is definately not okay.
your bf watching porn? sure! theres no reason for him not watch
but porn of his ex gf? he must still be attached because otherwise he would be searching for porn through one of the millions of videos online.
Ok, I just want to bring something up here. First of all, if I was the girlfriend in this scenario I would be extremely upset so I completely understand how you feel. You have every right to be mad.
But I wonder if maybe the reason your boyfriend had this video wasn't so sinister. I don't think he should have SAVED the video. But if someone told me that they heard an ex of mine, or anyone I knew for that matter, had a sex tape on the internet, I'd be curious about it! I'd probably google it just out of curiousity... I think most people secretly would. If this is the only issue that's come up regarding his ex maybe you don't need to be too worried.
I hate to say it, but I think you're right. I was totally thinking of this guy as a douche canoe until I read your comment. If there was an online video of my ex jerking off... of COURSE I'd watch it. Not 'cuz it'd be hot, but it'd be gratifying to know how low he'd sunk for attention (not that I'm the vengeful type). So I guess it all depends on what he's getting out of the video. If he was curous, or he's having a laugh at his ex embarassing herself, well, that's human. But if he's stroking off right along with her... definitely over the line.
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