Why the devil should you say word one, unless you feel a particular need to?
Part of moving on is no longer dwelling on what happened. Not rejecting what happened. That is unhealthy, but not worrying about it either.
To use an analogy that will probably get me toasted in the comments: You break your arm. Are you still thinking about it and talking about it a few months later? No. It hurt like hell, but it is healed and so are you.
The last stage of grief is acceptance - sounds like you have made it to there and good on you for doing so. It happened, it was bad, but it is over and you have moved on. There is no shame in talking about it, and no penalty for not talking about it.
The choice is entirely yours. This is about what you feel comfortable with. One of the few times when absolutely no one elses opinion counts.
Do what you want, not what you feel obligated to do.
Me by my first, and in the past I have felt obligated to tell S.O's.
Some of them would be too quick (and immature) to blame every intimacy issue on 'my past' thereafter, even if I protested this.
It's not nice to be treated as 'damaged' regardless of your personal progress.
Keep in mind, a mature and loving partner will respect your decisions, whether you disclose or not.
P.s MM, the analogy was alright, but I'd personally change it from 'broken arm' to 'fractured vertebra'.
There are different levels of severity depending on the individual case. They can heal, but also play up from time to time. Sensitivity is needed, and if not tended to correctly more damage can occur.
I originally had broken back, but wanted to emphasise the time difference in the time it takes for healing.
Actually I think MM's response is pretty much spot on to what I would've said as well.
Go with your gut on this one. If you reach the point of your relationship that you feel comfortable sharing your experience with someone, then that's fine, but definitely don't feel that you are under any kind of obligation to anyone, no matter what your relationship status.
I can say, from my personal experience, that the "right" relationship (where I truly felt loved/safe/cared for) had a way of causing me to remember things from the past that I had buried deep in my subconscious. I think it was my brains way of regurgitating stuff to help me realize I was now in a safe place. It was almost a little confusing to me when this happened because I couldn't figure out why I was having reflective memories over something that caused me pain when I was supposed to be happy. Talking about it with my boyfriend was incredibly therapeutic. I think it was all part of the healing process and ultimately, it helped me to deal with things I didn't realize still affected me. It was actually a very good process to go through.
Then again, they may not happen with everyone; it was my experience, though, in my current relationship. We are getting married next month.
I completely agree with MM. If you don't want to talk about it, then don't. A lot of therapists advise rape victims to talk about it with their partner because they think it'll help the victims heal, not because they think the partner needs to know. If you feel you've healed or feel that talking won't help, then why should you?