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I was seeing this guy and told him that I felt like he wasn't calling or texting me enough, considering we live two hours away from each other. Did I push him away?

Well that totally depends. Just how frequently is he currently calling you and texting you?

And by your actual question, I'm going to assume things went down the crapper after that conversation.

Now, it is totally possible to push a man (or even a woman) away by forcing them to do things that they normally wouldn't do. If he calls you once a day and maybe texts you twice, sure, he probably needs to step it up a little bit and you're right for asking for more. But what if he's not a phone person? Or a text person? I went for a few years where I absolutely hated texting.

If he calls you 5 times a day and you want 10, then you need to pump the breaks. Or if you're one of those people who gets upset because somebody doesn't text you back in like 10 seconds then perhaps pressing for more communication could push somebody away. Does he return your calls or return your texts is the better question. If he's doing that then give him some credit. Not everybody wants to sit on their communication device all day, Inspector Gadget.

You would have never thought 10 years ago that getting used to somebody's communication style could be a factor in a relationship, but it really is. Especially if you're just getting to know somebody. Even with a two hour distance gap between you all, understanding how he works and him understanding how you work is important. Perhaps some sort of compromise would have worked. You also have to think that maybe he just isn't the uber-talkative type. Me no know.

Then again, it's only two hours, forget calling and texting. Just go hang out and get naked.

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tellyy

i agree it depends

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lol "Or if you're one of those people who gets upset because somebody doesn't text you back in like 10 seconds then perhaps pressing for more communication could push somebody away."

You are really smart, gosh I never thought of any of that, I am that person who hates when people don't text back right away, and I don't even like texting, (strange). Wasn't my question but you really helped me out!

Megan

Some people assume that your phone is attached to you hand. It's not. I keep mine in my room when I'm home. I don't carry it with me everywhere. Then people get pissed if I take to long to text back. I'm like damn, if you can't wait then call the fucking house phone!

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every guy has different calling and text patterns the guy. all the previous guys texted me constantly, but the guy i'm talking to now isn't really into texting. he only texts me to confirm our plans and to say goodnight sometimes

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