Well, I assume what is going on in his mind is "3 years down the frickin tubes over something stupid. Not risking that (insert swearword of your choice) again!"
You know when you were a kid, and your parents taught you that if a man bugs you, you kick him as hard as you can in the jewels and run like the wind? There is an even tenderer spot to kick a guy - in his self respect. Sounds like you scored a bullseye there while wearing your hardest, sharpest shoes.
Trust, once lost, doesn't easily return, for either sex. It sounds like he is still in the actively loathing you stage. Maybe in 6 months he will listen. Maybe the horse will learn to sing, too.
You learned something. Something valuable about yourself. You make mistakes, just like everyone else does. Your mistakes hurt more than just you. Remember that. Move on.
You really don't want to become that creepy stalkerish chick.
Yeah, move on. Remember your stupid mistake and don't repeat it.
For sure, I don’t want to be that creepy stalkers chick. What I needed then was just some time off for myself as I was going through a rough period right after the death of my Mum. I had asked for a short time off which he didn’t want. That’s why things ended in a break. I am finding it difficult to move on. How do I move on? He has said that in 5 years time he MAYBE will give me a second chance? What does this means and should I wait? We broke up back in January. It’s been more than 6 months
Ya got my answer, gal.
Move on. Find a new guy. Stop doing the woulda, shoulda, coulda shuffle. It's embarassing.
Honestly, after all that time together, true committed couples don't take time "away" from each other especially in times of crisis like the death of a parent -- they lean on each other for support, love, and understanding. I don't get why you left the man during your time of crisis when he should have been your rock.
Panic makes people do stupid things sometimes.
Everyone mourns in their own way. He should have given her the time she needed. Sounds like their breakup might've been meant to be after all.