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I was with a guy for two years. Towards the end of the relationship, I cheated on him because I felt like he wasn't there for me, at all. When he found out, we broke up, and he wanted absolutely nothing to do with me, even when I apologized and begged for him back. I learned my lesson about cheating... Should I move on?

Yes, you should move on. Next time, before you decide to screw around on your boyfriend, be sure to break up with him first, even if your plan is to break up with him, hook up with another guy and then get back together the next day, at least you have an argument for why it wasn't cheating.

In this case, you effed up and this guy you cheated on probably just thinks you are a tramp whom he can never trust again. Sadly for him, you may have made him bitter towards relationships in general.

Move on. Oh, and no more cheating.

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miabifilms

Right you are my man. He's most likely bitter towards relationships in general. Cheating is not very nice.

Cary McNeal

Agreed. Move on and try not to make the same mistake again.

nightlyadvicestar87

Agreed! Don't cheat, even if you feel lonely. Break up, it's the mature thing to do at any age actually. One of my best friends, was cheated on by this girl, ironically he got back with her, stupid mistake since she is messing things up again. Anyway, my point is she cheated repeatedly on him and this caused him to be callous to her. If she had broken up with him, he wouldn't have resented her so much in the end.

My advice to anyone is: if you feel like you could cheat or so lonely that you want to, break up with you bf/gf first. There is then a 50/50 shot of them taking you back, then you cheating them. Your odds of keeping them if you cheat on them: about 1-5% chance, which is a 1: 100,000,000 odds of it working out.

Rach

You need to figure out the real reason why you CHEATED. You said 'he wasnt there for you". If you're not happy in a relationship then break up! The only legit reason for cheating is "I HAVE UNRESOLVED ATTACHMENT PROBLEMS". Figure out what's wrong with you, not what he needs to do. If you dont solve your problems then you'll just keep cheating and blaming it on the other person or the situation or whatever. Thats dysfunctional on your part and extremely hurtful to everyone else.
I'm glad your boyfriend had backbone! Now go fix yourself!

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