Well, that probably means that he got what he wanted and is on to the next one (no Jay-Z). See, this is the problem with hooking up with people too quickly, ladies and gentlemen.
Now sometimes chemistry and horndogism make it completely difficult to stop yourself and take full inventory of the person you're dealing with. And of course, some guys will say anything to get into your pants, but that's where it requires you to do some of your own decision making and say, do I know enough of this guy yet to know if we hook up, it can become more than that? You thought you two had a spark.
It was. It was a created with a match and once the match burned out, dude went AWOL. Not to be too harsh, but if you haven't heard from him, and its been, say a week, he's probably not going to be getting back in touch with you. Maybe he got deployed to Iraq and he doesn't have a global plan and meant to get back to you.
Or maybe his phone got disconnected.
Or maybe, just maybe, he's done.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't hook up with somebody quickly because the mood suits it, but you need to think about whether or not its because you two have some type of real connection that can't be denied that won't allow you to NOT deal with eachother, or if somebody was just horny and you were there.
If the guy was really feeling you, he'd get back with you sooner rather than later.
It was written.
Or like a lot of guys out there, He already has a girlfriend, girls guys lie and cheat you have to accept that you are probably just a one night stand.
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One night stands suck, especially if the sex was good. I want more of that! But alas, no. I'd be like "I'll be your 'friend', just do what you just did again!!"
But yeah, he's right. Move on sweetie, he already has.
He probably already has a girlfriend and was looking for some "strange". Guys will say anything to get laid, they lie lie lie! move on and appreciate you are hot enough some one wanted a piece.
if that aint the most optimistic way to view the "no call" ive ever heard...lol.
Hilariously, I know more women who've cheated on their men than the other way around.
But thanks for warning us all about the evils of men.
ALL MEN ARE BASTARDS! CONSIDER YOURSELVES INFORMED!
I've been in several serious relationships, and regardless of my promiscuous and bastardly tendencies while single, I've NEVER ONCE cheated. I have, on the other hand, been CHEATED ON by all bar one. Would that be my fault or theirs, in your opinion?
In any case, I take exception when bitter women stand up and scream about men being liars and cheats and whores, because in my own personal experience it's as true of women as it is of men. I understand hurt and bitterness, and I'll tell you right now that it will kill any potential in future relationships if you let it.
But hey, what do I know? I'm just a man, and we lie lie lie.
Bleh, I'm having a bad day. Take it with a grain of salt.
Your reply's are super fun to read!
"Bleh, I'm having a bad day. Take it with a grain of salt." FUNNY
So anyway, I agree with you. Everyone cheats men, women, man-woman even they cheat. Hell we women just broadcast it louder, tell our friends and start men hating clubs, men just go have sex with random women...that's not scientifically proven.... just my guess (If I were a guy, I'd do it).
I think you miss should move on, think about it rationally. Was it good? Did you text him because you liked him or because you wanted more? Did he get you pregnant? Or perhaps lost something you want returned (pride, time, money?)
Either way men do lie, people lie ALL the time! It doesn't matter what he said, because if it was during *the moment in question* then he'd have said just about anything. Your probably super hot, you'll find lots of guys that wanna hit n run, you need to decide if you wanna give it up or no. Just be prepared to live in the moment and go home later to what ever you normally do. Don't worry about him
I've been wondering latelly about one night stands and the radio silence that follows. Is it really like "Meh, I've seen you naked already, what more can I expect?" Don't they see the potential here? If they had sex in just one night, imagine how much more they could have in 3 weeks, and the oportunities lost while not calling back...
I'm NOT saying that women who sleeps on the first date are nothing but a convenient quick f*ck; I'm saying that as long as both parties agrees it's not serious, why not have some fun for a few weeks instead of running for the hills? Women are capable of having fun too (at least most of us are, I believe).
I'm genuially wondering about it. Are they afraid we will care for them too quickly and don't want to break our poor lil' heart a few weeks later and prefer to stop while it's safe and emotion free? Is it more simple than that? I'm just clueless here...
Is your icon of a Sim?
This is EXACTLY what I'm wondering as well. The whole bit about, "Do they think we are just going to like want super-clingy-love-feelings all of the sudden? It's more a question of how I seem to find the only guy in the bar that ONLY wants to score ONCE.
Whoaaa... Odd assumptions here in the responses.
I'd be curious to know how you two got together in the first place. Did he ask you out? You him? Something else?
By texting him you want to go out again, you did open the door to going out again.
But the assumption that if the guy doesn't walk through the door then you've been used is very strange -- and as a guy, I find it more strange from a gender that seems to pride themselves on communication.
If you hooked up and had a connection beyond sex, then you don't know what he's thinking until you ask him out. If he says no, then you know.
But he could be confused, hurt, scared, busy, contemplating his next move, etc...
However, if you two talked about your time together as something like "this is just one night, right" and now you've said you'd like to go out again, I'd say he's justified. In that case, there was a boundary and you crossed it.
Whenever a person says (above) "I know what he/she is thinking" all that person is describing is how their own brain works.
Gotta talk or not. But it's up to you.
That said, if you want a guy that will ask you out once you've texted him you'd like to go out again, you should move on and find a guy who will do that.
Or, *GASP*, he was waiting for YOU to make a move?
I was in a similar situation, but we were friends at work and went out and watched a game at a sports bar (he invited me). We were cool, no feelings or anything like that. We hung out one night after that and ended up making out. We work different shifts at work so I only see him in passing and it wasn't weird or anything, but I sent him a text about a week later and he didn't respond at all. I thought we were friends, was I wrong?