Why are you still friends with him? This dude pulls a Keyser Soze, disappearing into thin air, and then comes back with some feeble excuse and you're still letting him breathe the same air as you? Tell him his vanishing act really hurt you and completely blew a great potential relationship.
If he gave you reasons for taking off beforehand and then came back looking to rekindle the flame, that would be one thing. You'd still have the option to say, "sorry, you missed your window," but at least he would have been straightforward with you. Instead, he vanishes for four months with nary a word and expects you to be his friend (and I'm going to assume more) and pretend like nothing ever happened. Four months isn't a week-- it's safe to say you had already written him out of your life by the time he resurfaced.
So ask yourself why you're even friends with this guy. It sounds like you don't even buy his excuses. If you hold in your feelings, and continue to hang out with him like nothing ever happened, you'll just grow more resentful and eventually things will blow up. He'll ask if you want to go see Kick-Ass,and you'll reply, "Sure, as long as you don't disappear for nearly half a year. Better not buy advance tickets just in case you decide to skip town. Ha ha! Just kidding. No I'm not. You're a massive tool."
It was a casual relationship to begin with. Right away, he showed you that he's a tad sketchy and perhaps not to be trusted. He didn't value your feelings enough to let you know that he'd be M.I.A. for a while. He could have said, "Hey, I gotta go do this stuff. Hopefully we can try again in the future." Instead, he just came back assuming that everything would be hunky dory. But everything is not, in fact, hunky dory.
Tell him your feelings and then disappear. Send him a text saying, "Gotta go away forever. Series of unfortunate events and all." He'll think twice before using his Criss Angel, Mind Freak powers on another girl.
If he gave you reasons for taking off beforehand and then came back looking to rekindle the flame, that would be one thing. You'd still have the option to say, "sorry, you missed your window," but at least he would have been straightforward with you. Instead, he vanishes for four months with nary a word and expects you to be his friend (and I'm going to assume more) and pretend like nothing ever happened. Four months isn't a week-- it's safe to say you had already written him out of your life by the time he resurfaced.
So ask yourself why you're even friends with this guy. It sounds like you don't even buy his excuses. If you hold in your feelings, and continue to hang out with him like nothing ever happened, you'll just grow more resentful and eventually things will blow up. He'll ask if you want to go see Kick-Ass,and you'll reply, "Sure, as long as you don't disappear for nearly half a year. Better not buy advance tickets just in case you decide to skip town. Ha ha! Just kidding. No I'm not. You're a massive tool."
It was a casual relationship to begin with. Right away, he showed you that he's a tad sketchy and perhaps not to be trusted. He didn't value your feelings enough to let you know that he'd be M.I.A. for a while. He could have said, "Hey, I gotta go do this stuff. Hopefully we can try again in the future." Instead, he just came back assuming that everything would be hunky dory. But everything is not, in fact, hunky dory.
Tell him your feelings and then disappear. Send him a text saying, "Gotta go away forever. Series of unfortunate events and all." He'll think twice before using his Criss Angel, Mind Freak powers on another girl.
A perfect answer.. Someone did that to me not too long ago, I tried to put my feelings aside but like he said, eventually you'll blow up. It was something he said to me that made the twig of my sanity snap lol . To be honest, I never want to act like that again, I said some down right nasty things because he hurt me so badly....Your true friend would never go out of their way to make you feel unworthy, so chalk it up to flakiness and move on .
Hunky dory? *laugh.
haha that's funny because that sort of happened to me in a way...i talk about it on my blog lifeinsanity.tumblr.com he totally pulled away from me without a word. i never got a reason from him of course.
I think this is so messed up. I had a guy I was dating we got in a fight broke up for 3 weeks and then back together. But the whole 3 weeks no response when I wanted to get things from his house, etc. Then 3 wkd into round 2 he dissappears over a dumb silly tiff over text, and won't answer.
So 10 days later he calls says he was pissed about the remark I made and needed to cool off and acted like everything was fine when I saw him to het my things. I told him no more, that was wrong. He somehow talked me back and just a couple weeks ago two days before my birthday, and surgery I was having, he picks a fight out of nowhere and comes by on my bday and surgery day for 20 min and leaves acting mad still..then 2weeks later (when I'm capable of habit sex since surgery, I'm assuming) he does the sorry baby thing again and I went for it...it lasted 48 hours caught him in a lie. Hurts less but more cause it hurtse that he etchede gonthrouggh this everytime and didnt have decency to stop playing with my heart and messin with my head. Douchebaggies r us