Not at all. You can be the most attractive woman on Earth and be relegated to the friend zone. You see, you might ALSO be batsh*t crazy. There's no easier way to end up in the friend zone then pure insanity.
You see, ugly women end up in the friend zone by default. They don't get put there. They just live there because most men will not attempt to romance or win the love of a busted broad.
And even still, attractive women pretty much have to go way far out there to end up in the friend zone. Men will put up with a lot from attractive women. We'll deal with her strange comments and terrible taste in music. We'll build really big wooden horses and storm beaches until one of our homeboy's gets shot in his why-are-you-famous achilles heel. But there is always a point where you've gone too far. And it varies by man.
For instance, I couldn't deal with a really hot chick that got violent after being drunk. And I mean violent with pool sticks and throwing kettles into pots to make formal introductions.
So inconclusion, read my lips. If you're in the friend zone, it's probably not just because you are unattractive. You might be hot. It's probably because you are insane.
Thank you and good night.
It was written.
So how do you get the guy to get you out of the friend zone?
well...according to him if your ugly, invest in some plastic surgery . But if your hot, yet insane you'll have to see a shrink.
I dunno how I feel about this question... I have put guys in the friend zone, simply because I wasn't attracted to them whatsoever. And not because they were ugly, or insane, it was because I didn't feel a connection to them in a romantic sense... Some people you look at like, they could be your little brother or sister... You just don't view them in that sense.. I think that is entirely possible.
I do not agree with his answer.
Ugly girls who are not insane are given chances to be taken out of the friend zone. For example: If she is a real friend or just a great person, the guy would probably stop noticing her looks.
Hot girls in the friend zone aren't there just for insanity. He could just think it wouldnt happen or you would cheat on him.
Trying to get out of the friend zone??...well thats all up to him unless you're insane (if so SEE A SHRINK). If not... The please let him go, he doesn't you if he doesnt see how great you are. I've been there and made a complete fool of myself, he was never worth it.
Man up, get some confidence and no body in ugly in God's eyes
There could be a third answer...
When he first met you, you didn't act interested in him in the romantic sense, so he decided to not pursue anything more than a friendship. Whether you're really good at hiding your feelings or were genuinely uninterested in him as a potential boyfriend, you've probably killed any romantic feelings he had toward you. Keep him as a friend if you wish, but look for romance elsewhere.
i love the fact that you used the words "Bat shit crazy." i thought i was the only one. ;)
Way to basically imply to all the women out there that if there aren't any guys actively pursuing them, there is clearly something wrong with them. If you're attractive and single, then by God, you must be crazy!
Panama, are you seriously saying that every girl you've not been romantically attracted to in your life was either ugly, insane, or both? You know that's not true. What a stupid thing to say.
I can name several guys I know off the top of my head who are attractive and very normal (i.e., not insane). I just don't feel any spark or connection with them.
"Advice" like this is the reason so many girls feel like they need men to validate them.
You let me down this time. Normally your advice is pretty good.
If you change - like lose weight - is it possible to get out of the friend zone?
This isn't for me, of course...it's for a, uhm, friend. Yes.
my mom told me this and idk if its true or not.. but she says that if a guys is friends with you then he must be attracted to you in some way or another or he wouldnt be friends with you. It that it depends on the guy really and how long you've known each other and what level of friendship your on. does this sound about right?
I think you should reconsider your tag line .. I'm not sure girls bff is for you.
I think you should reconsider your tag line .. I'm not sure girls bff is for you.
haha love it! This is very true... to an extent. Guys won't also date a girl or go after one too much if she is WAY too vulnerable from anything personal. They will give into sex, but dating? nope... too vulnerable will get you friend zoned instantly by a guy. They don't want a "debbie downer" or a "wet blank" girlfriend. They want someone who can see the silver lining, make them laugh, are diverse on many things, and don't go bat crazy jealous as well.
In a nutshell (no pun intended!): either you got your life together and are not full of drama or you will be friend zoned instantly ladies. It's really simple, trust me, guys tell me all kinds of fun facts as to why they won't date or sleep with women... Oh and FYI: just cause you sleep with him, doesn't mean he'll take you out of the friend zone, he'll just upgrade you to FWB/booty call friend.
I just come here to read the fun facts that these awesome 6 men post in response to your questions...
My best friend is a guy. He is very attractive, and well, I'm not the ugliest girl around. Both of us are completely sane, and we have a great friendship. We just simply don't have that sexual attraction to one another. So I don't agree with this response whatsoever.
Don't freak out! Sometimes it is seriously not you. You can be really awesome, but sometimes you just think of people as sort of family - romance is really different.
The ugly and crazy stuff? Yeah sure, if you are 'severe' it's not going to help. But you can both be attractive and just not have THAT type of attraction to each other.
Great example is me and my housemate - we watch everything together, best person ever when im depressed and we're both young and not eyesores XD We both are in relationships with others but that started long after we met.
And do you know why? We're just like family. It's just the way we clicked. We're just lucky we're both very happy in the friend zone, which usually isn't the case. We just never had an interest in dating each other.
You can be the best person (looks, brains, beauty) in the world and just not have someone think of you THAT way... the whole 'girl next door' thing. Doesnt just happen if your frumpy, it JUST happens.
If you start thinking of beating yourself up over being in the friend zone and thinking you aren't 'worthy', sit down and think of all the awesome guys and gals you know that you can recognise are wonderful and attractive but they just ARENT who you would date. Who knows why? Some people are dating material...and some people just.. arn't
sigh. this just made me sad. because i think he might think i'm crazy.
Alright, perhaps I could have rephrased the question better. What I want to know is when a guy says he "doesnt want to ruin the friendship" by getting together, does he really mean it, or is he just BSing because he doesnt find you attractive enough to fit his standards? All who have commented thus far have been women who say they have the "not friendship ruining" ideal, but no men. So thats what I reallly want to know, we all know men value friendship in the opposite sex, but if a woman is attraceive enought for a man, even if she is his best friend in the whole world, would he risk the friendship to get with her, or would he not want to risk it?
Well, you know i have known my boyfriend for over 15 years. He and I were friends because of his older brother. We ran into each other after almost 2 years ago and started hanging out on a more closer friendship level. We became bestfriends. He was going thru a divorce and I was in a relationship. We had confined each other to the friendship zone, but he couldn't stand the thought of my boyfriend been alone with me. My relationship ended because I discovered that I was falling for my best friend. When I told him that I was now single...he asked me out to dinner. I thought it was as friends, but we called it our first date. He and i were both afraid of ruining the friendship but he and i have been together for almost a year now and we just getting stronger by the day. The only difference in going from friendzone to relationship is the fun parts....now we can do all the things that we wanted to do from the beginning.....
So Hell yeah a guy can risk the friendship....nothing is worth having unless you are willing to take a risk
this entire post is full of sadness and insecurity. Friendzone? a guy that does that is a loser, so drop him. find the guy that loves you for you.
and i dissagree, i see plently of busted bitches with boyfriends...smh.