Quite the contrary my dear lady. Here's my take: Being out there -- in the trenches of relationships and the tunnels of sex-land can -- ultimately yield a good deal of perspective and insight. Truths and revelations. Perhaps it is those with little experience that often have unresolved baggage. They don't have the scars and memories (not all bad, of course) from which deeper self understanding comes from. I'm not saying the remedy to baggage is get laid and involved, but don't take your chosen path and excursions as some sort of red flag. You are not nesseccrily brimming with drama and hang-ups. Maybe you're able to pin point what you like in others and yourself, what turns you on in bed and in a relationship in general, what values and goals you have, etc. Bottom line: It's not so much "Where you've been?" as, "What did you learn?"
Funny Guy
If I had too many relationships, both casual and flings, will I stand a risk of having too much baggage when I finally settle down by 40?
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This is something that I've been wondering about too... I've been with my first boyfriend for almost three years now and while he's great and loving and I can see myself settling down with him, I'm only 21 and I feel like I need more experience before I can make that decision. But one of the things holding me back from asking for that is the fear that I'll get too much baggage from other relationships. It seems a little crazy to me to be able to fall in love with, say, five other guys and still love your ultimate partner with as much purity; to not be constantly comparing lovers or have trust issues or whatever else might come with those relationships. Thoughts?