Okay, I can kind of understand your aversion to the virginity thing, but that last statement is WAY out of line. If there is an existing boyfriend/girlfriend relationship it doesn't matter how far they've gone or not gone, for one member to go have sex with someone else is cheating, period.

It depends on the guy. Some will wait until you're ready and other won't but the guys who won't wait, weren't looking for a realtionship in the first place.
You should talk your boyfriend about your feelings.

Its hard to go out with a virgin. I dated a guy virgin , and the whole..inexperience thing kind of wore on me. But I agree, if you are in a relationship with someone who is a virgin, you shouldn't go out and cheat with someone else. Lol wtf is that? If your guy can't handle the fact that you want to wait, then he isn't worth it. I dated a virgin and yeah it kind of intimidated me, but I never cheated on him.

Actually being a virgin is quite a nice quality. We can safely say you don't have herpes, and that shit is everywhere!

MM use to be ok, but now he' getting annoying. Is he really saying that your wrong for not wanting to give up your virginity to the first guy that asks? If a guy does't like me as a person well enough to stick around for a while beforehand, he's not getting any.

Side note: There are alot of people in high school relationships who don't have sex. Do those not count as boyfriend/girlfriend?

There's a difference between honesty and being a douche. This has crossed over the line and into douche territory. Without outright saying it, it sounds like he's encouraging her to sleep with him. This can be very damaging if she's not ready.

And not cheating since they haven't had sex? That's absolute bologna. You can have a COMMITTED monogamous relationship without sex. Having sex with a person outside of your relationship, regardless of whether or not your girlfriend is sleeping with you, is cheating.

I think Mystery Man needs to grow up.

It should be required that people who ask questions should state their age. It's very likely that this person could be 15.

Dude, get off the Mystery Man's nuts. Any girl who's that concerned with her boyfriend cheating on her should probably be talking to him and not some anonymous writer on the internet. It isn't unreasonable to assume that a young guy (because come on now, an older female with half a brain in her skull would ask this question) would seek sex elsewhere. You guys need to chill out.

i think the point of contention is that he said it'd be ok if the guy Did seek sex elsewhere, not that he said it could happen.

I think what mystery man is trying to get at is that by the guy seeking sex elsewhere that he might break up with her, not necessarily cheat on her while they are together. Plus, many men dont really consider something a relationship UNTIL they have had sex with that other person. Until then, its just dating-- that's how i feel! I go on some dates and then sleep with the guy, but i dont consider it an official deal til the sex. SO, that explains the other comment. She needs to be explicit on whether she's waiting til marriage or a serious relationship. If she's waiting til marriage then her boyfriend should know he's not getting any any time soon and they should talk about the situation. If she's just waiting to be comfortable then she should tell him that she's just waiting a couple more months. I would assume any reasonable guy would be willing to wait that long. I think the key is communication to her boyfriend about their sexual future together.

From my point of view, Mystery Man's answers are always tinted with a good dose of sarcasm. If a question asker can't handle second degree and want a more contructive advice served using velvet gloves instead of boxing gloves, there are 5 others guys to ask your question to.
I personnally like MM's answers BECAUSE he uses the devil's voice, which makes his posts different from the others'. You can't critisize someone for being a tactless jerk when it's pretty much his job description (and his role on this web site).

His last sentence gave me a good laugh. But I enjoy sarcastic sense of humor a lot.

It didn't sound sarcastic. That's not what sarcasm sounds like. It simply seems to be saying that to use the word "cheat" there has to be a sexual element involved, not necessarily in the relationship but in the act itself. As in, you could be unfaithful in sleeping with someone else, because being "unfaithful" doesn't imply sex, but "cheating" IS solely about sex.

Hard to explain. Mostly it makes him come off as a tool.

Any way you call it, that statement is justifying cheating by saying it's not cheating.

It's still cheating.

As to the rest of his answer, sure there are some LOSERS out there who would not respect her decision and leave her because of her virginity, but then again there are some that won't. Even some that will be amazed and proud to have a girlfriend with that kind of willpower and determination.

Staying a virgin until you are truly ready and not just giving it away takes a lot of work and strength.

Bob is certain of but one thing - and that is this filthy strumpet is asking not out of innocent curiousity, but, yet of a soul stained with the protein combination of a stirfry of her closest neighbours.

"If" you're a virgin?

You may just as well have asked, "If I was a trollop!". This woman's transparent attempts at chicanery are bizarre at best and, dare I say disingenuous.

Bravo, madam! You may have slipped one by the magistrate at hand. Fear not. I am but a spectator, taking great pains not to be disgusted at your ruthless apery of white veils.

To the person who asked the original question:
There are decent guys out there who will wait for you and even admire and cherish you even more because you chose the road less traveled. If you sense he's not willing to wait, then maybe he doesn't really understand you or where you're coming from. Nevertheless, I wouldn't assume he's only after one thing just because he already gave it up to other people.

Well, I am about 3years younger then my boyfriend, I'm a virgin be he's had sex a couple times. We still make-out and playfully touch each other, but he knows mostly what is too far for me. So I think you hayou think you have to find the right guy, or if you have and he brings it up or something, he may just be getting an idea how to please you without making you feel preasured. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I did worry about him seeking sex elsewhere, but after about 4months we had a long talk about what I would be comfortable with, what he wanted, and a few new things to try. Every now and then he will try somthing new, and if it goes too far, I stop him. But that rarely happens because he knows I want my first time to be special. And 'MysteryMan' I guess we know why you have so much free-time to conjure up theese idiotic answers. Cheating is cheating, whether in texting, calling, or touch form. It is cheating. End of story(:

If he cheats then he was never worth it. If he truly loves you he would wait for you to be ready and he wouldn't even think about going astray.

well ima 17 year old girl and im still a virgin .....he tells me its all up to me when im ready if a guy really loves u he will have self controll becuase why would u wanna lose somebody over somthing stupid... there is a thing called masturbating . but i feel even thou yall havent had sex yet and the guy goes off and is doing things with another female its all cheating becuase ur suppose to be dedicated to that person real love doesnt come from sex, it comes from the heart , mind ,body and soul :) passion is what its called which is way better than sex, romance :)