Hitting someone is never ok. Ever. No matter who is doing the hitting.

The bigger question is why did you think you had a right to slap him? Me thinks anger mgmt is for you!

where do these questions come from? you all should have a "please think before you speak" disclaimer before someone hits the submit button. my ex actually told me several times that if i ever struck him that would give him cause to do the same, in "self defense". it's wrong. in my world, the police refer to that as assault. violence begets violence, but that does not make it okay. ever. so dont start a cycle that is very close to impossible to break. and if you cant, YOU. NEED. HELP.

I'm going to be the disenting female opinion here. I was raised and taught that a real man would never hit a woman, and on the same token I was raised that a lady never strikes a man. That being said, there are women out there who are not "ladies". They hit their loved ones and abuse them verbally. I have seen that side of a couple of women I know, and I know that their spouses have never hit them back, because they too were raised to never strike a woman. I don't believe that it's fair to tell a woman who is in an abusive relationship to fight back, yet turn around and say to a man who is beat by his girlfriend or wife that he has to take it without fighting back, because men don't hit women. Domestic abuse against men is real. And not just in gay couples. Men who are abused by their wives rarely say anything because society looks down on them, telling them they aren't a real man, or that wives aren't abusive, but in the same breath telling them they can't fight back because real men don't hit women. That's bullshit. If anyone stikes anyone out of anger the person who is hit has every right to defend themselves within the confines of the law. It shouldn't be a double standard, but it is.

Any woman who hits her man deserves to be hit back. Just sayin.

Hitting your spouse is wrong, be it man hitting woman, woman hitting man, man hitting man, or woman hitting woman. Within the boundaries of the law if you feel threatened or in danger you are allowed to use as much force as is necessary to remove yourself from that situation. If you are a man being physically abused you have every right to hit your spouse back. I agree entirely with rebelchild. This does not mean that if your spouse slaps you, you can just pick up a baseball bat and nail them with it seven or eight times.

I am a Police Officer, I will give you one example of this kind of situation. It was about seven months ago, I went to a call for a domestic assault scenario. I get there and the person who called was the girlfriend who told me they had a fight and he hit her in the arm but I looked at the guy and he was covered in bruises, bleeding from his mouth as she knocked a few teeth loose, split his lip, and he had a black eye. He told me that they had gotten into a fight and she kept punching his chest so he pushed her away and hit her in the arm. After that she started to cry and he apologized, explaining that she kept hitting him and he was just defending himself. (As a side note the male had a number of bruises on his chest and the female had a red mark on her arm). He told me she seemed calm and everything relaxed. Ten minutes later he was told she called the police and when he entered the bedroom to confront her she hit him in the face with her hair straightener several times. He did not hit her back as he knew police were coming and assumed he'd be going to jail for hitting her just the one time, regardless of the damage she has dealt to him.

In short, the girlfriend is serving 2 years minus a day in a Provincial Facility. Boyfriend did not get charged with anything. My suggestion to all men who get abused is to fight back. Even if this guy had fought back once she attacked him with the hair straightener we would have arrested the girlfriend. It is believed that the justice system will always side with the female as 'any man who strikes a women is a monster' but that is not the case.

To any ladies who commonly hit their boyfriends or husbands when angry, STOP IT. It does not matter if you actually hurt him, or leave bruises, etc. All that matters is Intent and Act. If you intended to hit him, and actually hit him then you are guilty of Assault. I don't know what it's like in the US, but in Canada we have a Mandatory Charge Rule where, if we get a call to a domestic assault the assaulter is going to be arrested and tried in a court of law. Male or Female, does not matter.

What makes a bully a bully is the fact that they choose to pick on someone who is unable to defend themselves. So since guys are - for the most part - physically stronger then girls, it is not OK for a guy to hit a girl because she is probably going to be physically incapable of standing up to him. HOWEVER, if a girl hits a guy, knowing that he can't defend himself against her because any man who hits a woman is automatically scum, then that makes her the bully. In a situation like the one described by LColBone above, hell yes the guy has every right to hit back!

How about if you hit or pinch your guy/girl for the tease or just cause the guy/girl was being a tease ?

... does it count if he's on top of you tickling you and you start yelling at him to get off and start flailing when he doesn't? Good lord, I can't count the times I've gone to smack hands away and gotten other body parts due to poor angling...