The short answer is, hell yeah it would scare me away. It's one thing to want to adopt kids because you are unable to have children of your own, then I think most (not all) guys would be understanding, but the idea of that much responsibility, and then adding ones that aren't even your own. Oooh, not a chance. Too scary!
Then again, I am not wealthy. Perhaps it would be different if I had millions of dollars and nannies and big houses and such. Then it would probably not scare me away. It's sad because there are so many needy kids out there who deserve a loving home, but better to go somewhere like Madonna's house than mine.
I have to say that is one of the most important questions you need to ask the guy your thinking of marrying. Does he want kids? would he be willing to adopt? i have seen a lot of marriages sour because of this. Kids is an area where you don't want to think you can change a guys choice because you can't. For example, a woman i know wanted kids married a guy who didn't thinking he would change his mind, he didn't and she finally divorced him when she was 50 a little late for kids so now she lost out... another friend of mine she wasn't able to have kids and wanted to adopt but her husband doesn't want kids that aren't his, so yet again she doesnt get to have kids. I am adopted and my dad loves me and it isn't an issue, but some guys just can't do adoption. So don't be afraid to ask the big questions!! You don't want to give up on what you want and regret it later in life!!!
LOL I just want to adopt (assuming I have any kids at all) and carry none of my "own" children. It's a shame that so many needy kids out there need to be adopted. What's worse is that adoption can truly be expensive! I knew one man who ended up paying over $10,000 for his baby boy- and this was a US adoptions!
My old middle school gym teacher has 2 biological kids, and 4-5 adopted kids. They've just adopted 2 kids from China. I think it's sweet.
Raegan- I think he is trying to form his own intercontinental Partridge family