I dont know that I agree with this advice...especially the self esteem/ loco(a) part.

She sounds like she is emotional over the situation but that doesnt necessarily mean she has emotional baggage, in the sense that she isnt needy DURRING her relationships (she is obviously being needy right now), and she also doesnt usually get clingy, or break down and bawl in the fetal position to her men....lol

MM asked who else would describe co workers as ugly and needy, well, anyone who works with ugly or needy people? I know Im not a vapid, narcissistic, crazy girl, but if someone who was ugly or needy was being picked up more often than I was I would wonder what the hell was going on too. Dont get me wrong, Im no Eva Mendez, but we all know people we consider to be less attractive than us.

What needs to happen here is this girl needs to stop worrying about the guys that are asking the other girls out, because they dont matter. Be a little pickier, raise your expectations just a little (but dont be unreasonable about it) and decide what kind of guy you really want, then look around for him, stop being okay with anyone that asks you out, you will come off as desperate and needy, complete turn offs for guys. Be confident (DO NOT READ THAT AS COCKY!) in what you feel you deserve and just be patient, whats your hurry anyway? guys want what they cant have just as much as women do, so seem unavailable.

Also, you seem very conceited, instead of throwing a pity party for yourself with the "poor me, Im so great why dont they like me?" why dont you try learning what guys DO like, figure out the male brain a little more and you will know how to behave in ways that are attractive to men (in the process you will learn a few things about yourself and decide what you want/need to change and what to show off as good features that you already have). I'm not saying go change yourself entirely, but small changes are part of growing as a person.

Wowwww 21 ! Time to just give up... Why do women always feel that they need a relationship to define themselves? When your confident in yourself, you don't go looking to tear other people down... Get a clue, grow a soul.

And this is the first time I agree with MM lol . Good advice

Hmm, you're hot and wondering why coworkers won't ask you out.

3 words: Sexual Harassment Lawsuit

Guys are work are deathly afraid of Sexual Harassment problems. Which means "ugly" chicks are safe. Why on earth would an ugly chick slap you with sexual harassment? She's probably totally flattered by the attention...hot chicks, however, oh man, that's playing with fire! They know their hot and if they don't want your attention, you're dead meat for even looking flirty.

Not that it's really true the girls are thinking that way, but I know a lot of guys that think that way. It's taking the "safe" road. And to them that "ugly" chick might not be so ugly, she might be cute or average.

I would think that is she is all that she claims to be there would be no issue, the problem is one rarely see themselves as that actually are. The fact that she is willing to label the other women as ugly and needy means she is lacking something herself. Also why do you want to open up a nasty can of worms with an office romance? Generally they end badly with one or both people losing their jobs.

Get over it, look for your dates somewhere else and stop being so judgmental to your co-workers.

Maybe a little modesty would help.

LOL. Of course MM's advice is on the spot. Also, why would anyone want romance in the workplace to begin with? Isn't that usually against corporate policy, or at least etiquette?
Grab some girlfriends, go out, get set up on a blind date, anything! Don't just sit around and think guys are gonna flock to you just because you're young and have a pretty face. Any guy can get that, and you know what? They're usually not serious about them. Try making friends with guys first. You probably look unapproachable and snobby. I feel like once a girl opens her mouth, a guy instantly knows how he feels about her (as in, hit it and quit or charming, bring home type). If you approached a hot guy, but he was arrogant and conceited, would you still want to date him? Didn't think so.
Get over yourself.
p.s. you sound pretty needy yourself.... why else would you complain about guys not hitting on you? As MM said, get therapy!!

I'm not usually in MM's corner but this time, I think he speaks the truth. She basically asked why men aren't going for her and, based upon her presentation, MM responded with the reason why most men would want to avoid her. She may not actually be "a vapid, narcissistic, crazy girl who's on the tad loco" side, but she certainly comes across that way and men run for the hills when they sense that.

I think he answered honestly and from a man's perspective (which is why the Guys are here). Doesn't mean it's necessarily true ... however, it certainly seems like it could be.

Yeah, life ain't fair. Guys ask out whom they want, it doesn't require a vote. If she's not getting asked out, there's a reason that she obviously can't see. And being 21, she may not be able to see it for a long, long time. She sounds like a bit of a jerk to me and I wouldn't want to ask out a jerk.

Reminds me of a great 'demotivator' poster I saw: "The only common link in all your failed relationships is you."

And yeah, romance + work usually = bad idea.

I used to know this one girl who was constantly asked out even though she wasn't all that physically attractive. Turns out, she was the one who put out. To anybody. Hate to say it, but in my experience, that is what's up about 90% of the time. It may be better to get your dates from places other than your workplace. If you have any self-esteem, anyways.

Nobody wants to date her because of her obviously massive ego.

I think you've all over complicated this. IMHO....this chick is pissed cause there's "A" guy at work she wants and he picked the quiet nice girl next door instead of the office slut. So...to disguise that this is about something she can't have she presents the problem as having to do with "all guys".

Just a different perspective.

Wow....I totally agree with his answer! Nice!

Doesn't matter how "sexy as hell" you are....your fuckin attitude is ugly as hell...get over yourself, most guys look for more then just a hot body and face.

I feel that she was venting bc she is upset that in her opinion girls who seem to be needy also seem to get good guys. Do you really think based on a few sentences you have to attack her entire being! If you were talking to your friends you would never say the same type of thing? I know I would! It was to help make her point that there is a big difference between her and the girls getting the guys. I have felt this way about myself too sometimes. I am pretty good looking, nice, fun,caring, funny... and I too have wondered why annoying, obsessive girls get the guy. I always felt like maybe it was bc it was easier to read them. Maybe if you are so "great" a guy is nervous to approach you because in his opinion maybe you can get any guy and he thinks "why would she go for me she can have anyone". For as much as guys like the chase I've always felt that they love a sure thing. Guys may make fun of obsessive girls but at the same time they cant get enough of them bc it makes them feel good. In my opinion... if there is a certain guy you have your eye on be yourself but flirt with him a little more.. he needs reassurance that he wont be wrong if he tries anything with you... bc he doesnt want to go to work everyday and see the girl who had to tell him " i dont like you that way sorry!" .... jeeez all you haters try to be a little nicer and not jump down smoeones throat bc they see themselves as pretty darn cool!

I think someone's a bit jealous. In my experience with girls (considering I am one), any girl who sits there and self proclaims that they're hot as hell, as truly deep down evil people. They are selfish, vain, rude, conceited and believe that they should have everything. Sorry, but whose to call someone else needy, especially if they're not someone they're close to? Yes, everyone can look at someone and go meh I'm cuter than her, but that's a form of insecurity. You can't claim to have no emotional issues but then turn right around and say something about why am I alone?

It's highly possible that she hasn't even tried to do anything. Guys shouldn't have to do all the work to form couples. A lot of girls still think that if they sit quietly in a corner, their 'looks and charms' will lure the guys to them like bees to honey. But who decides whose hot and whose not? It's all about the person. So it's possible that her male co-workers don't see her as hot. Maybe they see her in an intimidating light, who knows? It's not about hating, but if she talks to people the way she asked this question, I could see why she's alone. She's young, and younger women (and men) are overly confident. Nothing wrong with it, persay, but too much is just as much of a turn off as not having any at all.

wwwoooow this chick must really get over herself who says "im sexy as hell" unless you're extremely vain, its clear that when looking for a relationship guys dont want someone who is just "sexy as hell" but someone with more substance and a nice personality

You're right to ask yourself....is this even for real?

If I wasn't eye witness to how far my customers have come in such a short time, I wouldn't believe it either. In other words, I know how you feel!

Just don't let your natural shyness or skepticism stand between you and this unique opportunity.

No serious lover would turn their back on this information and here's why...

I sense a little bit of self entitlement. Grow up a little then approach a guy you like and stop comparing yourself to others, it's rude, childish and completely ridiculous

what's completely wrong through how many calories should i eat a day could it be practical?

I feel sorry for you what you are going through. It's ok to feel the day you do because it's only medically and humanly normal to. If someone didn't get lonely or hurt about never getting asked out then they'd have to have something wrong with them.

I am a female. I don't know males well, which is why it would be hard to answer your question. But, the only way you can find out why guys at work aren't asking you out is you will have to ask them why they won't.

If you are having trouble getting local dates, then you better find a new home land. It's because I read stories of people who were dateless for a very long time, and that once they visited Europe, Eastern Europe or Mexico, they found themselves dates very easily. It's because I read that Europe and Mexico aren't socially paranoid cultures. I don't know if it's true though, cos I've never been to those countries. I also read too that Mexico is one of the easiest countries in the world's to get dates.

I don't mean to sound racist or generalising people, but I speak by experience and by what I've seen happen. I've noticed a lot of Spanish males are willing to give women a chance if they find them pretty.

Please take a trip to Mexico, Spain, Europe or Eastern Europe and you might notice a difference. I read a story about a man who was dateless and rejected by women for 20 years where he lived. But when he arrived in Russia he found dates with women everyday in Russia.

I live in New Zealand. I am in the same situation as you. I am quiet, sometimes talkative, and males tell me they find me nice looking. But, local males never ask me out. Australian and New Zealand guys never ask me out and usually rejected me most of the time. But many European, Turkish and Hispanic males give me most of the attention and show interest in me and confront me about themselves wanting me. That's why I think you need to visit Europe, Spain, Eastern Europe or Mexico and I think you will find a date ASAP. But please don't rely on internet dating, cos it's not a safe choice for people.

I hope you find a date ASAP. When you get regular dates, you will have better self-esteem and be able to live a normal life easily without any worries about dating life.

I found the advice to be perfectly reasonable. Not too sure about the emotional baggage but I agree with the narcissistic bit. Really. If you have to start a question off with several adjectives about how sexy you are, then there is something wrong. Besides, the several others who mentioned that she's fine because it is OBVIOUSLY true that her coworkers are ugly, I would like to give a good schnoz in your face. Your term of beauty and hers might be different. What if the girls are just nice and soft-featured girls? They might not be beautiful or gorgeous but they don't have to be necessarily ugly.

It's pretty simple. She's actively knocking down some of her coworkers because she, who might be more beautiful in physical appearance, is not having luck with the men while they are. Does that say she has a lovely personality? Anyone? Anyone here want to say that any normal person would just say things like that about their coworkers because it just happens to be true? Not rude at all?

Ahem.

I'm not saying she's a bad person but that's a bad trait in any male or female. Jealousy is a terrible thing. Obviously, they must not be that ugly since they ARE getting dates and this hot babe isn't. And if they are ugly, then they must have a better personality then she does, since again, they're getting dates and she isn't.

Saying she is a slut or anything degrading is just rude and childish accusations. You all know nothing about her except for the three lines she typed out. There's a difference between saying your opinion and just calling people names. I think we can be a bit more mature about that.

That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

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