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I'm 22 and a "thicker" girl - not quite chubby chaser material, but not skinny enough that guys go out of their way to talk to me. I've never been asked on a legit date before, meanwhile all my friends are entering long-term relationships. I'm told I'm a "guy's girl" but why does no man seem to want me?

Based solely on the information that you provided, I have no idea why no guy seems to want you. I will say this though, women get tagged as "guy's girls" probably are coming off as more friend than girlfriend. You make yourself to be a great friend so these dudes maybe come to you to talk about stuff or to hang out to be a homey.

Guys ain't viewing you as wifey material. Effectively, you've not played up your attractiveness and just been the nice girl that all the guys are cool with but don't view as actual chicks with chick parts and chickness.

My advice would be to find a way to accentuate your womanness. Flirt more. Make sure guys are looking at you like you could be somebody to date. You've got all the key ingredients already in that guys probably like talking to you about stuff - including other women which is the problem. Guys want to date their girls that are friends as long as they view them in a sexual light. If I'm not attracted enough to want to blow your back out, then I'll firmly plant you into the friend zone.

So be a girl, girl. Flirt. Make sure they see your boobs (covered of course, we're not going slutty here). Just be a woman.

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Kelly Rae

Yes, just be a woman! :D Nicely said, BFF.

Panama Jackson

Thank you Kelly Rae

Katie

It always takes me by surprise how concerned we all are with how our attractiveness plays into getting guys. Like all the "I'm pretty but can't get a guy" and "I'm not pretty/skinny enough so can't get a guy" questions. It makes me a bit sad that so many of us think that's such a huge factor in finding someone! (I know I've definitely been guilty of it in the past!) I always envied those girls who always seemed to have a boyfriend, and selfishly wondered "I'm prettier than that, why can't I find a nice guy?" And then I figured it out, haha.
Great advice Panama!!

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"blow your back out" whaaa? sorry it might be and American phrase, but "please explain" :)

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How do we put this politely? I don't think there is a way.

Blow your back out = give it you real good in the bedroom.

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Personally, too skinny is bad- but rolls and rolls of fat is also bad. Proportion (while being an artistic term and possibly viewed as degrading) is good. Jussst saying.

DAS63

Thank you so much for the advice, Panama! That gives me a renewed sense of hope. :)

@Katie, I suppose the biggest reason that I even call my body size into question is because I've been told that guys my age only want one thing (sex) and that if I'm not enough to physically turn them on, then I stand little chance. A lot of the times I sit there and wonder why my friends are dating the girls that they are; these girls are overly-possessive and sometimes down-right mean (to them and to me) -- the only conclusion that I've arrived at is because they're skinnier than me. Which has been true thus far. It frustrates me, but I'm hoping that if sex really is the only thing on the brain, that they grow out of it soon!

rjake90

I relate a lot to this question, It's just like me. I have some follow up questions. It seems that whenever I like a guy he doesn't like me back or we flirt back and forth then he loses interest. What's up with that (if you have the same answer as above, then that works too). Also, since I've never had a boyfriend and have only been on a couple dates, whenever it seems like anything is starting with a guy I get really excited and possibly come on too strong. How do I stop that without playing hard to get (which I totally hate, I am interested, why can't I act like I am)?

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