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I'm 22 years old and my first love passed away earlier this year. He was the first guy I've ever genuinely and unconditionally cared for. I know he will always be in my heart because he meant a lot to me but sometimes I worry if I will ever love anyone in the same way.

Of course you won't love someone else the same way.

Love ain't something that is the same every time for everyone everywhere. It is different both for and with each and every person. similar enough that most of us know what you mean when you say unconditional, but we all put our own spin on it based on our own experiences. Love is something that grows between two people, and each person you love is like a different soil and season.

You will always love him and miss him. Accept that. You will also love someone else just as much, but in a different way, given time. Don't compare the next guy to your first love. You will demean both of them by doing that.

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nikitamaagel

I love this wise answer, and I completely agree.

imjustagirl

Maybe when it happens along again, you know what love feels like in your heart & have the ability to act on it. It could happen, right?

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I one read this line in a trashy romance novel:


Love cannot be compared between two person. Every person is different.

Katie

Just wanted to say I'm very sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how that must feel!!

SimplyLaurel

This answer is perfect.

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