Just to make sure I'm getting this right, you're quest to lose your pooch is making you want to not let a man see you disrobed for fear that he will not find you attractive anymore? Or heaven forbid, want to stop making out with you?
Let me just put this out there upfront: unless you resemble Jabba the Hut in size and stature, we find most nude women highly attractive. If anything it gives us the opportunity to see new boobs. And if there's one thing in life we like seeing, it's new boobs. Hell, even our own girlfriends/wives, every time we get to see their boobs its like Christmas day all over again. Much like sex, you never know if you'll get it again so you relish the opportunity.
But to your specific question, while most men do appreciate washboard abs and nice hineys and lovely hips and big racks and...well you get the point, I'd wager that most men are quite okay with a normal woman. And let's be clear, most women (or men for that matter) don't have washboard abs and the whole other display of things we've come to see on the silver screen or moving picture box.
Plus...(*come closer*) we know it's there anyway. For some odd reason, women like to wear clothes that fit their form and it often reveals some of these imperfections that cause insecurities, however, it doesn't make us stop talking to you altogether, unless dude is grade A shallow or a gym rat.
If your pooch is stopping you from wanting to make out with a man, that's on you. I'd guarantee that he's not thinking, I refuse to make out (and hopefully boink) this woman because she has a little extra cushion. Besides, we like cushions.
Nobody likes to sleep on rocks.
It was written.
Love your answer.
Love your advice. Makes women or at least this women feel more proud of her body! :)
I honestly believe that its more about how you feel about yourself than if you have a perfect 10 body. Even if you have those washboard abs, its the common (and nauseating) female condition to find something else you hate about yourself.
On the other hand, if you walk/run/stumble into that room thinking "I'm so fucking hot, you have no idea what you're in for" and act on it, you're going to be much better in bed/make-out (?) than a girl with a perfect body who just lays there.
Thank you! Great answer!
Here here!
it was written.
This was a great answer. Honestly, it actually helped me. Thanks. :)
Hiney? Hiny? Hinie? These are important questions we must address.
But first -- great answer, Jackson. Extremes in any regard are unattractive. A person who looks like too much cottage cheese shoved into too small an igloo tent is as boner killing as a person who looks like a bologna wrapped skeleton.
Most normal dudes like normal women -- we all have self-perceived flaws here or there. A person who judges another person harshly, without taking their own flaws into consideration, is an ass basket.
A note on abs -- I like a regular stomach, with just a little pooch. A creamy, smooth tummy is one of the sexiest things on a woman.
awesome, u give great answers dude
Great answer! Love it.
no woman is perfect to everyone, and the opposite is true, every woman is perfect for someone.
you could be the finest piece of eye-candy in the world, but that doesn't mean you're going to attract every guy. a woman with confidence will be not only shown attention, but respect.
and it's true, we can tell when you're wearing something that hides what you think are less than desirable parts, but unless it's the tumour from total recall that tells quaid to open his mind, we don't really care, unless we truly don't find you attractive.but that can be for any number of reasons, not only for the one's you think.
ain't love grand?
"And let's be clear, most women (or men for that matter) don't have washboard abs and the whole other display of things we've come to see on the silver screen or moving picture box."
Do men know this, I keep wondering now.
Great answer!
I was at a bar a couple weeks ago with some new friends, and we were 2 couples and the single guy. So we are sipping our drinks and trying to get the single guy to hit on this chick all alone at the end of the bar, and she's a little chubby and somehow that (women being chubby) came up... anyhow one of the guys turned to the guy I'm dating (who is a bit clueless despite his age), and said, "you realize all women suck in their stomachs right?" basically he was telling his friend that almost no women out there have truly flat stomachs (which I think is very true, unless your world is the gym or modeling or something).
To the OP, men who are not attracted to you are not your concern. Don't fret over someone if they don't like you, just move one, knowing there are over 3 billion men on this planet, and the sooner you find out someone doesn't like you, the closer you get to the one who does :-)
Sweetie, I wear a 12 and I've never had a man complain about my tummy. And my tummy is stretched and full of stretch marks from having my son 6 years ago. I've been with quite a few guys since then and not one has ever said anything. They might have thought it, but they were smart enough to keep it to themselves since I might just put my pants back on.
If they do say something, they are not worth taking your pants off for. No man in his right mind would say something bad about your body since you just might not get naked in front of him.
My hero, that's your new name for all eternity!!!! LOL
I love your answer.
I lost a lot of weight this year but before I always wondered, why the hell do guys talk to me, and now I keep wondering what they saw in the me of a year ago. I never had a bf cuzz i was damed insecure (even though I'm always talking to a lot of guys, I even consider myself a tease, thats a story for another day though), and I'd always think, what if he doesn't like my body (maybe i should have dated um and not made up their minds for them) but anyway I've grown so much this year and I learned so much from a hell of a lot of mistakes. All that to say your answer was the final nail on the head and makes me wanna cry a little, I feel so much better....THANK YOU
Glad I could help. Really, beauty is an inside job. You are as hot/beautiful/awesome/attractive ect as you think you are. I know I look good. That's a given. If someone says otherwise, that's something within themselves they don't like. It has nothing to do with me. I know I'm a good person and I deserve to be with good people. It's all an inside job.
And I have to say it again, any normal sane well adjusted man who wants to get into your pants will NEVER say anything bad about your body. They want to keep their balls attached to whatever it is that keeps those boys hanging.
if he is that preoccupied with your abs than he is not a man, hes a jerk or a jerk of a player! You dont want either one! He needs to want you for you and your beautiful mind and self. You will be gorgeous to him if hes into you w or without a flat tummy! Hes sick and self absorbed if he makes a big deal of it!
My guy doesn't have washboard abs. He's flabby like me. But he has really nice arms and really well toned legs from bike riding to work. I prefer it that way. I like to put my head on his tummy and it's nice ans squishy.
People really aren't as demanding of physical perfection as tv likes to make it out to be.