I completely disagree. Just as some black girls prefer white guys or some Asian guys prefer Jewish girls, some white guys prefer Asian women. You are probably thinking that it has something to do with concubines and geishas or some sort of subservience kick, but really these guys might just be more attracted to Asians. It happens and is not necessarily weird.
The fact that you are meeting guys who literally use the words "yellow fever" and they are saying it to your face indicate that the class level of your crowd is probably extremely low. I would suggest you work on finding a better class of friends and acquaintances.
I think Asian women are much more beautiful than any other race. And I think it's okay, just so long as you don't attribute positive or negative personality characteristics along with that.
As long as it remains a purely aesthetic preference (predominantly Asian women are much smaller and cuter to me, and I love the almond eye shape :P) and you don't assume anything else about them, then I don't see what's wrong with expressing something that you feel, if it's more positive.
Also, using a phrase like "yellow fever" is a bit gross. Don't get involved with anyone that reduces your entire self to your ethnicity. I might appreciate the Asian look more than others, but I would never get properly involved with someone just because they were Asian - that's pretty insulting to them.
Are you asain?...or like alot of asains? Because i honestly think every race is quite beautiful for many different reasons.
I also love terms like "yellow fever" or "jungle fever" (im a black female). They add humor to certain situations!
I'm not Asian :) I wish I were though! I'm not saying that other races can't be beautiful - that would be a ridiculous thing to say! - but that in general I find most Asian women attractive, particularly Japanese women.
Call me a stick-in-the-mud, but I think the term "yellow fever" is degrading. Saying something like, "I have this thing for Asian girls" is much more appropriate, at least until you know the person and know what their boundaries are. If they think the term is funny, well then. But something tells me that these guys are saying this to this poor girl just to get a reaction, which is sick.
I'm not against inter-racial relationships (not at all), but it seems to me that for it to work, some degree of respect is required. Everyone has their own taste in partners, and we're all human beings, right? If these guys are saying this flat-out, they obviously have little or no respect for a fellow person, and it's even worse if they're using it as a pick-up line.
I agree with MM for once. Find some new acquaintances and friends! There are lots of people out there who will respect and love you, just as you are.
I agree with Jude, and NOT with Mystery Man at all. GuySpeak.com, can you get Mystery Man outta here?! His answers always suck and are so off-base, I hope people don't actually take his "advice" to heart.
Anyway, this "yellow fever" business is SO WRONG. The fact that a guy actually told you he's having "yellow fever" is messed up, and that it's a "fever" tells me it's a phase or temporary thing. i mean maybe he does, but that he actually said that out loud is weird. Yes, that guy may be attracted to mainly Asian women, but he's probably not going to respect you if he has a "fever" or craving that he's trying to quench. You'll just be one of the many Asian women he does stuff with in the bedroom and moves on to the next one. I'd be pissed if a guy told me he was having "Negro fever" or "Sista fever" or some other thing like that. That's not a compliment to me. That tells me he's just curious to see what I'd be like in the bed, but nothing else.
Hang On! MM clearly stated that using the term "yellow fever" was NOT acceptable; I quote:
"The fact that you are meeting guys who literally use the words "yellow fever" and they are saying it to your face indicate that the class level of your crowd is probably extremely low. I would suggest you work on finding a better class of friends and acquaintances."
So, while he agrees with many of the other posters that some people are attracted to certain races (Asian, Hispanic, African-American), using terms like "yellow fever" is NEVER okay.
I'm an asian girl and I *hate* that term "yellow fever". Too often it means they really think you're a sex object and that's the end of it. Having a preference is not the same as thinking about sex in terms of race only: using the term seems to highlight that race is the most important thing, and it shouldn't be. Also all these stereotypes come in: they insist upon seeing the stereotype, and not you at all. I've totally been at the receiving end of this. Just because you're asian, they assume you behave in a certain way. It's totally degrading and all they want is sex -- and when they realise they can't get it out of you -- they begin insulting you instead (this is true
I am also Asian and I am extremely hesitant to date anyone who I think may have an Asian fetish. Even if they don't admit it, I don't want or care about how "interesting" they find my culture or how "beautiful" my eyes and hair are. I want them to like me for ME, not my culture, or my race/ethnicity.
Sure, these things have helped make me who I am today, but in no way should anyone date someone simply because of their race. No matter how you put it, people who think like that are acting on stereotypes which *sometimes* are true, but are also often wrong and it's not fair to either person to get into a relationship based on false (and stupid) expectations formed by race.
Please disregard MM's advice (besides finding better friends who don't use "yellow fever") and go read JDV's post about his parents' biracial relationship. THAT'S how relationships should be.
I wish someone could help me out, because I am really tired of going out with Asian women. I feel attracted to them physically, but I'm latin so I don't really relate to the culture and it just ends abruptly. Latinos are loud and fun, Asians in general are quiet and respectful. My first serious gf was Asian, and ever since then I'm only really attracted to Asian girls, does anyone know a way I can 're-link' my brain and be into all types?
I get along incredibly well with Latinas and Black women, it's just their not my 'type'.
Wow way to sterotype everyone. You need to look at people as PEOPLE and NOT RACES. read belindajulie's comment above, I think she puts it really articulately. I can't beleive people are still thinking about other people in these little boxes. It's so closed-minded.
I'm surprised anyone's still using the phrase, "yellow fever." It's obviously offensive, out-dated, and such a turn-off to hear it. I'm tired of all the stereotypes about Asian women. We're not all petite and super skinny or extremely quiet and submissive ... we're all different shapes and sizes with varying personalities, so we should be respected as individuals and not simply defined by our race.
To LatinGem, I'm sorry to hear that you're tired of dating Asian women. It's sad that you think the two cultures don't mesh, as I am an Asian woman in a completely happy relationship with a Latino man. We embrace the best of both of our cultures and explore them together. Before my current boyfriend, I also thought I was stuck dating a particular ethnicity. But you honestly have to go outside your "type" and date other women for who they are and not their race. I did, and I couldn't be happier.
@ fasciculata You are right about embracing both cultures, I just haven't been able to make it work for more than two years and I want a forever relationship; but I guess that rarely happens nowadays so maybe I'm being unrealistic.
I am dating outside my type though, currently I'm seeing a white and a black chick. I really feel comfortable with their personalities, but I can honestly say I'm not as turned on. A few days ago I went on a date with a Korean chick and had a big argument and I'm not going to go out with her ever again. I was really physically into the Korean chick; but the personality didn't jive with mine as usual.
I just wish I could find a latina that looks asian. Maybe I'll move to Peru and forget about my car payments.
it shouldn't matter. Initial attraction is one thing, but surely other things are more important. I think people get sexier (or less sexy) as you get to know them better. Asian culture isn't uniform *either*. So much of it depends on which country the person comes from and basically the influences that she has had in her life. Is the physical so important to you that you need someone Asian? I find it difficult to believe that if you get along with a girl and really click with her, she wouldn't turn you on more, regardless of her race.
To LatinGem, that's great that you're dating outside your type, but you have to realize that what makes a relationship work or doesn't work completely depends on the person. I had to laugh about your argument with the Korean girl because I am Korean, too! But fights are going to happen regardless, and you can't base everything off one argument. I definitely agree with Lorraine ... when you find someone you really click with, you become more attracted to them, so I'm sure it will happen for you.
Just because you're asian, they assume you behave in a certain way. It's totally degrading and all they want is sex -- and when they realise they can't get it out of you -- they begin insulting you instead (this is true
U said it Lorraine. They always assume you act a certain way, and yes, the insultings begin when they realize they cant get anything from you. Nothing against white men, but they become so possessive....like really? I dont even know these guys! Im an attractive asian woman, and wow....insulting. Takes my breathe away at the level of BS these guys give us and how personally insulted they are that I am NOT interested. I also think biracially dating is fine, because it really is all about the compatibility of personalities, but I would love to kick most of the jerks who hit on me.
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