You should never assume why anybody is holding back. But yes, in theory, if you want a guy to notice you, or pay attention to you in hopes that he might take a shot at a holler on you, well bat your eyes or do some other flirty something or other to indicate interest.
This goes beyond racial lines. If a woman is interested in a man that isn't paying attention, then she has to more or less "show" that she's interested so that if he doesn't come over to talk its because he sucks. Most guys are all about women period. If an attractive enough woman is present, then she'll be the apple of all of our eyes.
Now, it could be the company you're keeping when you go out that keeps some of the white dudes away. Who are you going out with? Are you out with a gang of Black dudes? Or a legion of Black women and you're not breaking free of them in order to show a guy who could be intimidated by that (namely all other men). Hell I'm Black and if I see an attractive woman standing amongst a bunch of Black dudes you bet your bottom dollar I'm leaving her alone. Same with a bunch of Black women. It's a recipe for major clownage.
So who knows. But if you WANT to date a white guy, then maybe you need to let a specific one know that you're intersted. Not saying that you have to do all of the work but give him the green light or something.
Great answer. What Ive learn is that MEN, ALL MEN, are attracted to any attracted women whatever their race is. Of course there are exceptions, but generally men are open to dating attractive women, PERIOD. Men often times are the one getting turned down, so any women attracted to them will spark their attention. That said, dont make yourself too easy. Be open to flirt, etc eye contact, but women who flirt loudly, pretentiously, and eagerly come off desperate and slutty. HAVE CLASS ladies. good luck!
thats how i feel a little bit. most white guys look at me & flirt with me. I am also black into white guys. I always wanted how much alot of black guys don't like me though? btw I have alot of white friends if that matters, & I'm a black white girl whatever that means .
Thanks so much for answering my question. There isn't one guy in particular that I'm into, I'm just trying to meet people and I am a bit intimidated by the idea of all of these things. I've had all kinds of issues with prejudice so expressing my interest when the guy is white is super scary to me.
I'm usually in a group of 3 black women including myself and white men definitely look but that is it.
I have been assuming that they are not interested instead of initiating a little flirting. I'm gong to work on that and perhaps try to do a little less hanging out in a group of 3:)
PS. I'm sorry for writing this "Thank You" so late.