I think there are two steps to getting over any kind of loss, whether it's a romantic relationship, a friendship, a death in the family, a job you loved or anything else that leaves your life abruptly.

The first step is to grieve. You have to grieve. People like to be tough and push aside their grief. They consider it indulgent and weak to give in to those feelings. They think you should just suck it up and tough it out. They're wrong. You have to grieve. Grief is like that kid selling $5 candy bars who knocks your door: ignore him all you want, but he knows you're home and he's not going anywhere until you deal with him. Ignoring grief actually makes it worse, as the Roman poet Ovid points out: "Suppressed grief suffocates, it rages within the breast, and is forced to multiply its strength."

Once you've grieved, I think step two is largely willpower. You tell yourself, "It happened, I grieved, it's over. I'm tired of living my life this way. I need to move on." And you do. You make yourself. It's a conscious decision that you've spent enough time lamenting your loss and you will start living your life again. This is where being tough and sucking it up come in -- after you've grieved, not before. It's not easy, but it's easier once you've grieved, because you have no unfinished business.

Your case might be different, though. If you're "constantly getting heartbroken," something is amiss. We all get hurt sometimes, but constantly? I hope you're just exaggerating. If not, how does that work, getting constantly heartbroken? Do you fall in love on the first date?

If every relationship ends with you being devastated, then moving on isn't the answer. The answer is not letting yourself get into a position to be heartbroken in the first place. Maybe that's what your friends are trying to tell you: you fall too hard too quickly and get hurt too easily. Why is that?

It's a question worth considering.