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I'm doing some nude modeling. How can I make my guy comfortable with it? The photographer is gay, I'm not recognizable in the photos, the pics are all for galleries (erotic art not porn), and the pay is great (and I need the money). What can I say to reassure him?

Well, you made a pretty good case already. That sounds like the best possible scenario. It's not like you're posing in some dingy basement for a creepy dude with camera phone. Tell him all the things you told me. If he still has a problem with it, then he just doesn't want you to pose nude period. Artistic or not, he still is thinking about all of the people that will see his girlfriend naked. And even if you aren't recognizable, he's still thinking that something that is private to him is now being shared with other people. Also, he's probably worried that someone might recognize you or that his friends and family might find out.

So reassure him that it is not sleazy and is something that you feel safe and comfortable doing. (He's probably also worried about your safety.)  If this is something you want to do for yourself or your career, explain that you are okay with it, understand the risks, and feel like the photos have artistic merit. Beyond that, there's nothing you can do to make him okay with it if the mere idea of his girlfriend posing nude bothers him. The fact that the circumstances are as reputable as possible may not matter. A nude photo is a nude photo to some guys, whether it's in Playboy or hanging on the wall at the Museum of Modern Art.  Ultimately, he will have to get over himself and support you if it's something you believe in and want to do. And that is the mark of a good boyfriend.
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Invite him to go with you to the sessions. And show him the drafts before they get finalized. That'd go a long way to reassure me.

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"Ultimately, he will have to get over himself and support you if it's something you believe in and want to do. And that is the mark of a good boyfriend." Love that!! you are brilliant, Chic Geek

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GIRL, go for it. Its your choice, PLUS you even told him, youre hiding nothing. If hes supportive and loves your body and you, he will totally be into it.

I would. Lol...good luck!

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Ask the photographer if he's okay with your boyfriend tagging along to a session or two. Don't just bring him along uninvited, because that could just piss off your photographer(being a sibling of a photographer, I know that they often want their work to be intimate, just them and the subject, no matter what kind of picture it is.) He might be distracted, self-conscious, or it could just throw off the mood knowing there's a third party watching him like a hawk. Plus, he might think that you're getting the wrong idea. He thinks it's an artistic thing, but you bringing your boyfriend to watch might make him wonder if you think this is a porn shoot. Your photographer might be totally fine with you bringing him, I just wanted to warn you so your boyfriend wouldn't immediately take it as a bad sign if he said no.

But also as Mr. X said, you can see if you can at least show him the drafts.

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Ahhh, artists! Where would we be without them?

Point taken though, fair enough. The photographer should still understand her BF's sensitivity, as she does since she asked GS.

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