I wouldn't worry: if you have an open enough mind to accept his sexual past, then you are already well-equipped to handle whatever your sexual future will be together. That you're not as experienced sexually is definitely not a deal breaker, especially since it sounds like you haven't judged him for his slutty history.
Sex is grown-up play. It's sitting in a sandbox with another person and playing. Although, you're both naked, and instead of building sandcastles, you're slapping genitals together.
Be ready to play. Laugh. Listen. Learn.
I took an improv class once. I thought it would be fun, and it is. Improv is a lot of fun. But it's like masturbation: I enjoy it, but I don't really want to watch most people do it. Watching improv can be like watching a cult of hobos dance for beans. You clap and wince alot. Although, sometimes, a performer totally crashes and burns. Going to an improv show can also be like a NASCAR race, too. It's only really entertaining when there's an explosion.
But in the class, they teach me to say "yes" to everything when on stage. In an improv game, if someone asks you a question, or makes an outrageous statement, or introduces a plot point that is utterly ridiculous, you have to say "yes" to it. Rather than shrugging, saying "no," and walking off stage. It is a great rule when it comes to sex. And before I get angry e-mails: one should never say "yes" to sex acts that are illegal, intentionally degrading, or make Mother Nature cry.
Say "yes." And see where that goes.
One last thing: I think tons of people confuse "quantity" with "quality." I know I've been with a couple of women who felt they were "experienced." Which meant, to them, that they had banged a bunch of guys. But the truth was, they were terrible in bed. They had learned awful or boring sexual habits and no one told them to stop, or they just found strings of dudes with similar (bad) sexual tastes.
On the flip side: I dated a chick years ago who had had sex once in her life, with a long-term boyfriend. She wrung me out, like a Sham-Wow.
What I'm saying is... who knows? You might surprise him, too.
excellent advice..I went out with someone who has a reputation for being a ladies man and he couldnt even kiss! Needless to say, i took matters into my own hand and took that boy to school! Who knows, you could end up teaching him a thing or two. Quality most definately triumps quantity in this area.
LOL not my question but how appropriate it is to my situation right now. Thanks guy, you really are very helpful
It turns any guy on to think his woman wants him to teach her all the tricks for erotic ecstacy -- what's best for him and for you. Keep feeding his male ego thinking that he is the world's greatest stud and he'll love you forever -- if you want him to.
Any guy loves to think his lover is learning and enjoying new things with him, so just let him do what turns you on -- and if it doesn't, tell him to try something else. The main thing is play to his male ego and show your appreciation when he does it right. Every guy is a sucker for praise and, of course, a great blowjob.
Play to his male ego and show him how much you enjoy and appreciate his introduction to all the finer points of lovemaking he supposedly has learned. Every guy likes to think he is Superstud. If he's not, subtly show him your own tricks and I'm sure he'll love you for it.
Honest, I'm not trying to be repititious, GuySpeak. But for some reason I don't see my previous attempts to post comments on my computer screen until I post this last one hours later. What am I doing wrong?
gordon, hit refresh on your browser after you comment, it should show up, but sometimes it just goes blank and you have to fight like hell to get back to the page, but it will happen in time, no worries, lol.
all in all, this response made me want to ask John to marry me...with the "slapping genitals together. " visual and onomatopoeia. And then again with the "She wrung me out, like a Sham-Wow."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWRyj5cHIQA
a lady's man was once the reason I started sleeping with women, it was that bad!