Don't get married. Cancel the wedding. You can get the money back.
Get some physical and emotional distance. Surround yourself by friends and family.
Have a really, really big margarita with extra tequila.
First of all: I'm sorry. This hurts. But take some solace in the thought that there are people out there who never get their hearts broken. Those are people who have no hearts to begin with. So... yay? You're not a zombie! You're a living, breathing, glowing, feeling, daring, soaring, diving, hoping, dreaming, loving woman. There is pain. But this pain is a reminder that love can be fleeting, that it is always a privledge, and sometimes it makes you pay a price.
Stand tall. Tears are not weakness. Check this noise out: get angry. Women always seem to get angry at the wrong stuff. They get angry at their boyfriends for meaningless offenses, but never when it counts. Some women will rage if they see their dude texting anyone. Or pout and steam if their dude wants to go out once a week with his friends to drink beer, talk smack, and act like spazzes.
Your fiance admitted to cheating on you. From what you wrote, he didn't even apologize. He doesn't show feelings on his face? Is he a robot? Some kind of emotionally vacant cyborg Vulcan? Where does he show his feelings? His feet? Nipples? Does your soon to be ex-fiance having a bellybutton that can smile? I'm even getting pissed at this douchepie. The moment he was caught, he should have called off the wedding. At least, been a man about one thing.
He should have known that cheating before a wedding is a sure-fire sign that he has no business getting hitched. Cheating is a symptom of something terribly wrong in a relastionship. But ass-bro seems to think he was going to get away with it.
I don't know. I'm not going to pass anymore judgement on your fiance. There are no hard and fast rules for love. That drives people crazy, but love is wild. Can you two reconcile? It's not impossible.
But not anytime soon.
Don't marry him.
Amen!
Excellent answer.
Agree! Do not marry him.
Yea definatly do not marry this man. You will only end up in the same situation after marriage. Marriage isn't going to change him if that's what you think. Plus what if you have kids...and he's out cheating!
Move on, you may be hurt, lonely and lost but at least your a strong woman moving on from his BS!
My fiance cheated on me 6 months before the wedding and wewent t counseling and went away to a relationship weekend ...yadayada yada ..... I married him because he was helping me raise my niece and I loved him. He finally cheated (that I found out) 11 years into the marriage and now I am thinking he probably cheated all along. We have 3 kids and we are divorced. He ust got married because he got his girlfriend pregnant and he told our son that he cheated a lot when he was younger but he doesn't want to do that any more .... I am angry (a little bit) that he couldn't do that for me and he probably won't cheat on this one because he seems to have changed. Also - he never apologized or completely admitted that he cheated.
Best mistake I have ever made - I have 3 beautiful children and a home with no mortgage. He pays me child support and I live in the home with no mortgage. It still hurts that I allowed this man into my life - it is very hard to get over that anger. I have moved on with my education and taking care of my children .... hoping to meet someone true blue.
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I have the fiance who has cheated and we're going to get married. I'm not naive though i don't think he 's just gonna change. I think that he supports me and our child completely and if he does it after we're married he'll have to give up everything except the dog and the motorcycle. I don't want the dog and im not a total bitch he loves the bike and claims to love the dog so he can be by himself with them.