I'm sorry to hear you're going through so much adversity right now. That's a heavy load for anyone, much less a young person. Of course you are stressed.
The one thing you don't need to worry about right now is your future love life. Guys will still be interested in you regardless of your past. Everybody has a past. Everybody has baggage. Mature, intelligent men know this. A guy who's looking for a partner with a spotless, drama-free background had better load up on supplies because it's going to be a long ride.
Things that happen to us are beyond our control. You didn't choose to be abused or to lose your brother. That's just life. No one gets through it unscathed. As unfortunate as these events may be, they make us who we are, for better or for worse. Adversity builds character and helps us value things that others without the same experiences might not. Losing my mother at a young age gave me a deeper appreciation for women and taught me an indelible lesson in living in the moment because life can change quickly. Did it suck? Absolutely. But it made me who I am today, just as your battle scars will make you a unique individual. That's little consolation when you are the midst of hard times, I know, but you will appreciate it as you grow older and deal with other challenges in your life. So will men who are looking for a woman of substance and strength.
Keep your chin up and keep fighting. Things will get better, I promise you.
Thanks for the question.
Wow, I am so sorry to read this, in my mind that is too much for one person to handle. But good for you to reach out and ask for some guidance. I would also encourage you to find a support group or a therapist to help you out. Don't be afraid of therapy if you have a crisis therapy hotline call it and they can recommend someone in your area. When going into therapy make sure you find someone you are comfortable with. Best of luck to you.
This is a really great question and answer and I think more common than we care to realize. I can say that people who have been through many experiences in their lives make for much more interesting and deep partners- if they have worked through their issues. On a personal note, I can share that I have been in a few very bad relationships that were abusive, and had my share of stress in life but I eventually found someone who loves me for exactly who I am, warts and all. I encourage you to get some help in dealing with this stuff and you will come to know and appreciate yourself in a whole new way- and eventually someone else will as well.
Wow nice answer!
I am really sorry to hear that OP.
I, too, have had some tough moments in my life, like losing my mother at a young age --like Cary-- having a verbal and physical abusing father and several other things that made me who I am now. As Cary said, those things built my character and made me a strong woman who takes no crap from anyone, says"I love you" quite often, takes nobody for granted and gives free bear hugs when needed. Life teaches you lessons every day, some harder than others but they will make you a better person little by little.
I am pretty sure you are a brave woman and any nice man will appreciate your courage. Keep your head up, there's nothing to feel sorry or be worried about.
I'm sorry you are going thru so much. I'm a woman in the same situation. I have lupus. It's a lot to handle for me alone, much less someone else, but my boyfriend has done just that. I appreciate him so much, because he has stuck with me for 5 years thru my various illnesses. He has shown me what true love really is. He has shown consistently that he's there for me. BTW We are both older. We are 50. We plan on moving in together soon.Don't give up.