I hate to say it, but if this guy hasn't moved things into relationship territory in six months, he's not going to any time soon. He's keeping you at arm's length because that's where he wants you: close, but not THAT close.
The only other explanation is he's a staggering coward, and as my father yelled at me when I was too frightened to go on the pony ride at my eighth birthday party, cowards don't deserve love.
If your ego is up to it, make a big move. Let him know you're interested in no uncertain terms. This will either tip him over the edge and lead to a blissful relationship, or reveal him as the noncommittal flip-flopper I believe him to be. Either way, you'll know more than you do now, and can exact your revenge if appropriate (HINT: It's always appropriate).
Poor Swaim...seems like you have a whole storehouse of traumatic and/or repressed childhood memories.
I never got the "kinda seeing this guy" thing. If you have been hanging out for six months (I assume one-on-one, otherwise it's not even "kinda" seeing him, you just run with the same crowd) and he hasn't made any kind of move, then you're not "at the friends stage". You're friends. It sounds like you already think of it as a romantic relationship that's going through some mysterious initial "friends stage". If you want more, hey, go for it, but it won't happen by itself.
Ummm you're either with him or you're not. What is this friend stage this girl is making up? He's just not that into you. If he was, you wouldnt have becone just friends if you met and were both single. Im sorry.