Yes, it's cheating. If you are doing or saying (or typing) things to other men that you have to HIDE FROM YOUR HUSBAND, then it's cheating. PERIOD.

Either get divorced and do what you want or figure out what is missing in your marriage that makes you feel like you need to spend time sending pictures and dirty thoughts to other, anonymous men, and FIX IT. Because trust me, something IS missing if you're showing your body and spewing fantasies to these guys when that stuff should be reserved for your husband.

Ugh.

Ya know what, give her a break. We all need a thrill once in awhile. Humans weren't built to be monogomous. Do I look like a penguin? No!

For the people who can exhibit enough self control to be monogamous- then don't be in a relationship, especailly marriage.
People are born with lots of natural tendencies that arent socailly acceptable, like armpit hair.... lol. But clearly ladies shave it off- they dont run around saying its ok cause its natural! (unless youre a hippie)
Its not an excuse to say that since people are born with a tendency then its fine. Its an excuse that doesnt work because people have self control. They are responsible for themselves, tendencies or not.

"Save your marriage, become a swinger" ROFL! That's the weirdest advice I've read on this site!

But I agree, exchanging dirty pics is cheating. Keyword: exchange.
You are develloping relationships of sexual nature with other men. If you love your husband but feel the need to do that, then you should look for what is missing in your relationship and fix it. Maybe it's time to consider conseling...

(unless your husband do the same and maybe the swingers advice wasn't so weird after all :p)

I consider it cheating also. But before running off to get divorced, I think some talking needs to be done. There are so many different kinds of marriages, it is not one size fits all. People get stuck on ideas of things, or think they should be offended by some things or opposed to some things just because that's the status quo. You can make your marriage into whatever you want it to be, but it should of course be a group decision. Honesty and openness are key. Patience is good too :-)

im in a lasting relationship for 35 years now and counting,i truly believe we,(men and women) build up some kind of a chemical in our bodies and minds makes us get horny,and as the days go by without relinquishing it through sex or ejaculation it builds up and we might do stupid things because of it.,i find my self looking at all the ladies saying to my self id fuk that ,id fuk that good!then i go home and jerk off and id notice the next few days that my minds not cluttered with evil thoughts,try it... Dino in sunny Miami.

yes it tiz,cheating but i traded good sex with my wife after 35 years now for good food,shes a good cook...dino in sunny miami

having no sex, builds up something in our bodies that can get us all in trouble, ,all you have to do (to clear out the dirty thoughts in your mind ) is a magic tool called,,, vibrator,get one or two,use it everyday till you get control of the life you started out with.it will really help..love Dino.

HEY HON ITS OK!! DO WHAT YOU WANT.......BUT do me a favor & send me your husbands email address,Iv got a dirty pics to keep him occupied until your done cyber trickin. NO NEED TO THANK ME,I DO IT BECAUSE I CARE.

yes, I would consider that inappropriate. Whenever faced w these issues..i ask myself how would I feel if my boyfriend were doing this? But maybe this is a symptom of bigger issues that you could work out with your husband ? Are you bored, not satisfied sexually, not being valued at home ? I bet if you worked it out with your husband and put as much effort into your marriage that you do w these strangers, you would be rewarded.

You know the answer to your question.

What is really disgusting is that you are a mother. I make a BIG distinction in my mind between a mother and a girl. You are no longer the latter. Start acting like one. If my mother did that, my world would fall apart. If it was a friend who became a mother, I would knock the sense back into her. If it was any other girl, I would let her husband know what a closet freak he has as a wife.

In your defense, internet apps like fb are making it increasingly easy to find people or for random strangers or long lost flames to find you. It is up to your husband and you to set strict boundaries especially if you are as loose as you seem to be with little to no self-restraint.

Even though I'm not a fan of helping people like you out, I will make an exception for the good of your kids.

Do this:

1. Tell your husband and apologize for the grief you caused.
2. Promise to stop and then follow through.
3. Give him wide discretionary powers on your privacy (he will demand it).

If you do not act now, you will slip further down the slope and really mess up your marriage. I guarantee it.

I don't know why I'm such a nice guy and helping dumb biatches like you. Just remember that your kids will get messed up having a mother who can't lead them in the right direction. They will perpetuate your behaviour if you continue to act in an immature fashion. Kids do as they see.

Just think of it this way; yeah, this is pretty bad but there are worse things she could be doing. No, she's not perfect but it is still wrong. An easy way to stop is to consider his feelings if he found out about this. If you want something to work out bad enough then it's not really that hard. Just think of how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Try something new in the bedroom to spice things up a bit.

YES!

Hey ladies we all know she is boarder line cheating but men get away with far to much now and days it just a matter of time before one mate walks in the door to admit to cheating to change one life forever

Point is, you're obviously hiding it from your husband so you know it's wrong and he'll probably get mad at you for doing it, so why do you continue to do it or why are you still with him?