I'm glad to hear that, but I don't know that I can wait for you. >SNIFF< I've been hurt before, but maybe we can get through this.
Listen to this song and think of me, my darling.
(In all seriousness, I would really love to know how this wound up in my inbox. Pipe up in the comments, anonymous.)
She must have forgot, "He said..." and "What does that mean?" A staple for most women.
that's what i thought too. in which case i would respond with something like, "best of luck with everything." and keep dating other people. i've seen guys use this line on a girlfriend of mine, when the things they were "working through" were other women. he could generally have things standing in the way of a relationship with this girl, or it could be a cop out line. either way, he's not ready for a relationship and she should keep looking for someone who is.
Assuming you are correct, maybe he really is working thru some stuff and needs to let the dust settle.
Seems reasonable enough.
Go do your own thing, if it's meant to be, it will happen. Resist the urge to create drama.
Have faith grasshopper.
;)
I think it could be sincere, and as far as how she reacts it depends on what the problem is (if he tells her), and how long he thinks it'll take the dust to settle. If he means he needs a couple of weeks to sort something out with his family and won't be available in that time, it's a very different thing than if he needs an undetermined amount of time to decide what he's going to do with his life and relationships, and also different from suspecting he just wants to "explore" someone new with impunity. Obviously context is everything. But I can say that even though my guy is going through a very difficult time right now (one that I'm constantly worrying about) and has things he is sorting through, he goes to great lengths to let me know how much he loves me and what my support means to him. He may not want to talk about it, and sometimes his worries overwhelm him, but I know he still wants me there. When the relationship really matters to a man he still tries, and he still does everything to be near you, no matter what the circumstances.
agreed. the problem with this sort of mysterious leave off is the lack of communication. like you say, guys that are interested in their girl staying interested will discuss the details on what is going on in their lives, this I know. i'm not saying this guy automatically wants to explore other women with impunity, it is just one of many possibilities, and to me, when that possibility gets overlooked is most often the times when that possibility that is actually the case. you are right, context is everything, and the guy can help create the context with communication. if this is the only communication she has had with him, it's just sketchy to me. it doesn't speak of a guy that is interested in hanging on to this girl. it is a nonverbal test of sorts, the less details a guy gives either when he's coming or going, the more skeptical i am of them. you know that movie, "he's just not that into you" when the women spend hours proffering up this that or the other excuse for the guy not calling or not communication "his grandma is sick, maybe he was in a car accident, maybe he's been in the hospital all night with his mother, maybe he got called into work overseas and really IS busy" and the guys are saying, no, none of that is happening, he's just not that into you. those are the exceptions, that happen rarely, not the rule, that happen frequently. you are spot on, when a guy is into you, he communicates. when he's not that into you, he doesn't. period.
I WANT TO KNOW WHAT LOVE ISSS, I WANT GUYSPEAK TO SHOWWW MEEEE
Godd*mn, I just had to sing this out loud...
LOL
Sounds to me like he's dumping you, but leaving the option open. Which is douchey of him and sucky for you.
I just told a guy that and I meant it. I like him but don't think it's fair to either of us for me drag him into my former mess that is taking longer than I anticipated to finish. I get that in a couple months he may be happily in love with someone else. If so, good for him, if not, good for me!