Skanky is a bad thing, right? You're asking if wearing a tank top or a mini-skirt is a bad thing. Because women are told that showing skin is a sign that they are slutty. Open for business. Ladies of ill repute. Wanton harlots. Lascivious slatterns. Get thee to a nunnery and all that nolse. Women are beautiful.
Look, unless you live in an opressive patriarchy that insists you wear a burka or suffer some terrible medieval price, then show off the glory of your curves. Your creamy shoulders. Aerodynamic legs. Bounce, woman, bounce! Don't want to be objectified? There are men with undisciplined salivary glands and brows like ski jumps. Yes, they look at women and think of them as objects. Pity those bros. More often than not, they spend a lot of time talking to themselves. Well, grunting to themselves.
Don't deny the world your God/Zeus/Earth Mother/Flying Spaghetti Monster/Intelligently Designed given assets. Heh-heh. Assets. Advertise the glory that is your sexy, sexy humanity. According to science, the matter that makes up the universe is all the same stuff. So... there are stars in your boobs. Shine on.
You say "skanky." I say "awesome." And "thank you." Also: "Sup, lady pal." Wear both the tank top and the mini-skirt.
I have to laugh because in the past year I have gone from being an anxious, separated-&-in-6-mos-divorced woman who was mainly conservative, and reserved from being married (long time) to a controlling man who had his own inner struggles from growing up a preachers son (textbook hang-ups) who wound up cheating on me, to being a freedom loving, tank top wearing, short skirt divorcee who is enjoying the attention of showing some skin. I embarked on my own, self-made re-awakening of sorts in April '09 and have not stopped being amazed at how good it feels to shed the burdens I've known - emotional and physical. The tank tops I run in, sleep in, go on dates in have become a symbol of my freedom, odd as it sounds. What makes me laugh is how the two very things I have enjoyed wearing (the tops and the skirts) are being compared here to being 'skanky'. haha I've come a long way...
Yeah, it's official.... I'm in love with John DeVore....
Seriously, you give the best answers to us about what's hot, what's not. How men view and appreciate the female form. I particularly love the whole "if you're not being appreciated for being the divinely fabulous thing you are - woman - then you're spending time with the wrong people" attitude.
Has there ever been a truer lover of all things female? Any time I'm feeling down about being over 40, single, and kinda "ugh", I just read a little JDV and I'm all better!
SHOOT! Categorize this under "I'm not a skank! I'm just popular!" LLOOVVEE IT! Who gives a flying monkey what you wear as long as you like it...then sweetie ROCK IT!
BTW! Should I tell the guy I'm dating I'm officially in love w/ 2 pictures and a bunch of words? (eg. JDV and Mr. Cary!) Love you both, so incredibly awesome if only more men thought as you 2 do. I think the world would be a much better place!
I personally think that having self respect and wearing either the tank top or the mini skirt are more appropriate for public (keep in mind that there are little kids out in public that dont need to see your half naked body walking around like that).
Then again...I think it depends on where you are going in public...going to the club, don them both. Going to the mall, pick one or the other. Going to the park, the tank top with a cardigan or the mini with leggings. Going to the nude beach, bare it all, lol.
I think the mini skirt is more skanky, but thats my personal opinion.
of course John is saying go half naked...he's a man! lol
I think if one wants to wear the miniskirt *and* tanktop she should do it with opaque leggings.... not too much skin! I'm not sure tanktops are the sexiest thing anyway. I mean, I won't wear them if I wanted to feel good about myself :P They are what I wear when I'm having an off day.
Hmmm for me skanky = slutty + trashy. That's the formula. So for me, the quality and look of the clothing are just as important as the cut to make someone skanky. Trashy is like crazy ripped jeans, belly shirts, things that have things written across your boobs or ass, that crazy lip liner look, that crazy racoon eyeliner look etc, at least in my opinion, its open to debate. Its any lady who looks like she could beat someone up, lol.
Anywany, I personally think that super short skirts are worse than cleavage, but it's a pretty close draw.
Fun Fact: guys are most drawn to women who cover 40% of their body, and expose 60%. I'm not sure how they worked out the percents, but keep that in mind.
I think it's funny that someone would ask JDV about tank tops vs. miniskirts.
I mean duh, he's a Reformed Player; of course he's gonna write that he likes both! But to be fair, he did write an eloquent essay about it.
No wonder women fall in love with him all the time. :)
Why is it always that the "ideal" body means having big boobs? So I have small ones, does that make me "less than" ideal?
I am not ideal either. I have a larger chest, but I also have a midsection. I suppose I am less as well.
an" ideal" body to a man is basically one that looks the most fertile. Big boobs, small waists, hourglass frame, lean figure = top, baby-making shape. Its just biology making men predisposed to prefer a mate with the best potential to make offspring for survival. Small boobs are usually on ladies with cute petite frames (that I envy) so even if you dont have big boobs i'm sure you've other good stuff to offer. Plus, I bet its a lot easier to find clothing that fits you.
Hmmm...this is a tough one. I would probably say do whatever you feel like, but just don't always expect people to respect you. A lot of the time, how you portray yourself is how you will be judged. Be yourself anyway though, it's a free country and contrary to popular belief, the girl was not asking for it and it's not because of what she's wearing!
Depends. Is it so "low cut" that we can see your boobs? Or so "mini" we can see your wooha? Are you trolling underneath a street light? Are you going to a church picnic?
Are you Brazilian, American, Saudi?
**snickers**
But seriously, from my personal perspective, it's "skanky" when we can see your underwear even when your not bending over. And it doesn't matter if your body is "perfect" or your sporting a beer belly. But that's just me, someone from say Brazil, would say I'm being a prude. Someone from Saudi Arabia would think I'm being insanely liberal.