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Interested in an interracial relationship but why is it so hard, putting the public aside, to actually come by anyone out of your dating zone who actually has a genuine interest and is not just out to sample the buffet?

Mostly because, realistically, a lot of people are out to sample the buffet in the first place. And quite a few of them are probably thinking the same of you.

Stop and think for a moment about how you phrased that question. You didn't happen to meet and click with somebody of a different race, you're specifically looking for somebody of a different race. How would you feel, hearing that, from somebody else? That they were looking for something serious, or looking for a plate at that buffet?

It's good you have an open mind, but realistically speaking, interracial relationships that last tend to do so because they're relationships built on their mutual personalities, not their skin color. So, I'd say, look for somebody you like as a person. It really is what's underneath that matters.

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Jlove

My friend and I were having this conversation the other day. He and I both don't mind interracial dating, but it can be hard to find out if the person you like is of the same mindset. But I have to somewhat disagree with you Dan, some people just find people of another race, just more attractive than others. My friend, who's white, only dates black girls. He can't get enough of them lol. So someone can be exclusively into wanting an interracial relationship without seeming like they want to sample the buffet. Because you can still choose a person based on their character, not just what they look like. Also people have types all the time, just from some people that type happens to be a certain race.

VivT

Maybe I did infact word the question wrong. Jlove has an understanding of what I mean. I dont want to sample the buffet but I realized I'm more attracted to or prefer people of a different race than I am but I am in no way out to sample anything, not how I roll. People can be of a different race and we are attracted but if I dont like them as a person it really doesnt have a point to me. I'm not trying to block myself from meeting good people, it's just a preference, not an obsession.

kamakula

So your real question is why is dating interracially just as hard as any other dating?

VivT

Maybe I did infact word the question wrong. Jlove has an understanding of what I mean. I dont want to sample the buffet but I realized I'm more attracted to or prefer people of a different race than I am but I am in no way out to sample anything, not how I roll. People can be of a different race and we are attracted but if I dont like them as a person it really doesnt have a point to me. I'm not trying to block myself from meeting good people, it's just a preference, not an obsession.

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