I know couples who have been married for decades who knew the other was "the one" at 15, so I am not going to say you are crazy.
Probably both fooling yourself, yes, but not crazy.
Like I said in my answer for the Bridezilla folks, there are no deadlines in life. No tickbox in your birthday card saying this year you will get engaged / married / laid / have a kid. No one standing there with a stopwatch and calendar to keep you on the track of some master life plan.
Things happen when they happen. Sometimes early, sometimes late, sometimes never. Most people go through the stage of thinking the first serious love is the one that'll last forever.
Usually they are wrong, but sometimes . . . .
Well, I was with my current partner when I was 16. I loved the hell out of him, but had my head screwed on enough back then to know that if we settled down as he wanted to (he was a little older) then I would have resented him for making me give up all the carefree adventure I thought my life would contain. So we seperated.
Then I developed (not as a result of that) various mental illnesses, ended up in a physically abusive relationship, and fled the country for a year when I was 18. Unpleasantness happened abroad, all this so-called freedom and adventure I thought I would be having turned out to be a bit of a crock of shit. I then went to Uni, disappointingly following the course I wanted to do as opposed to the prestige of the fantastic Universities I got into, and found that it was filled with tedious, stupid people. I ended up in another relationship, with an apathetic, lazy, wanted-me-to-be-maid-and-mummy boy of a man, but at least he was better than the one before.
Now, it's seven years later, and we're back together. He has a child and an ex-wife, and I have various baggage myself, as you might think. But I needed to do those things, to realise just how wonderful life is when I'm with him. Point is, you might know now, but you don't know what you're missing. I found out what I was missing and it was a pile of crap. But for you, life might be better without him, or with someone else, and I don't think at 18 you can really know that. At the very least, I'd suggest a loooooong engagement, and living together before getting married, etc. :)
And now to turn that nonsense into a sappy romance novel...
I understand wanting to be with someone forever, but do you need to get married RIGHT NOW? Why not just stay together for a couple more years before you make such a huge decision?
If this is what you want, go for it. Honestly, it's your life. And for better or for worse, the only one who is gonna be living that life is you. And you only live once. My cousin and her man have been together since they were in junior high and tho they've had their ups and downs, they're still together some 16 years later; finally married and with a child. And they're happy. Everyone thought they were crazy for NOT marrying ages ago but they said it wasn't time for them yet.
So no one has the right to tell you if it's wrong for you if you both actually feel that strongly about. Who can say what the future is gonna bring. I say go for it. If I had someone I had felt that strongly for, I might have tried myself. At 18 you're old enough to handle your choices and though you can take advice into account, you're making your choices as an adult. Just be prepared for anything, is really all I can think of to say. Good luck tho
I understand how you feel. My boyfriend and I are both 19 and are cautiously wondering if we might get married one day. But we've talked about it and neither of us are in any rush to get married. Plus, we're realistic enough to know that how we feel now has a high probability of changing.
My advice? Either break the engagement and keep regular dating for a few more years, or just make it a really long engagement. If you're really supposed to be together, a few more years of dating won't change that.
If you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person, what's the rush? Especially because it is easier to go through college un-wed (unless you have a child) and by the time you are ready to graduate, hopefully you should be financially more stable. Marriage is not only a huge commitment, but also a huge financial burden. And like I said, what's the rush?
People develop a lot in their early 20s. Interests will change and/or solidify, and there will be a lot of emotional development, too. Change will happen. If you think you can adapt to it, then sure, married, woo. A lot of people like to wait, though, because they know they aren't entirely sure of who they are yet, and they know their partner isn't really sure, either.
It's a tough call, but I agree with Alice: you don't have to get married right this second. If you're gonna stay together forever, then it won't hurt you to not get married right away.
wow this question is exactly my situation.im 18 and my fiance is 20. we are planning on getting married a few years after i finish college. When you know who you wanna be with, you just know. good luck!
I am 19 and my boyfriend is 24 he wants to marry me someday and i know that i want to spend the rest of my life with im also. getting engaged is a big deal but not as big as the marriage it'self. if you two are truly in love and knw in your hearts that you want to be togther than my advice is go for it! you can be engaged for years before getting marred and in that time you both can have sort of a feel for if this is really what your ready for. theres no time lmit on engagements so take as long as you need before rushing into anything. if you guys are meant to be together it will be rather you get married today, tomarrow, next year or 5 years from now. over all its you guys decision and if yall are ready for it then i wish you the best of luck!
ps: another good idea is a friendship ring about a year before the engagement ring. im hoping for one this christmas:)