Yeah, grinding is a form of cheating. It might not be as bad as sleeping with someone else, but the intent is still the same. Why is he grinding up on random ladies when he has a girlfriend? That's just low class. Plus, unless he's paying to have a stripper grind on his lap for night school money, it rarely ends with just grinding. If he's rubbing up against a random woman at the club the implication is a) he's single and b) he wants to--pardon my slang--"bump uglies" with her.
Did he cheat on another girlfriend with you? That doesn't mean he'll definitely cheat on you, but it does mean he's capable of it. That said, unless you have proof that he's cheating -- relax. Let him go out with his friends and blow off steam.
Don't just assume he's trying to cheat on you. It all comes down to whether or not he acts trustworthy. Does he come home at 3am reeking of booze and cheap perfume? Is he flirty around other women? Does he never want you to come when he goes out to the club? Yeah, his friends might have his back, but chances are they're good guys who don't want him to cheat and get into another bad situation. Plus, it isn't really their responsibility to keep him in line. If he's going to cheat, that's all on him.
So if you've seen or heard about him grinding on randoms in the club, that's definitely grounds for dumping. But if you're just assuming that he's hitting on other women when he goes out with friends, try not to worry. Talk to him and let him know that you're worried he'll cheat since it's happened before. Hopefully he'll do everything he can to show you that he's faithful.
Did he cheat on another girlfriend with you? That doesn't mean he'll definitely cheat on you, but it does mean he's capable of it. That said, unless you have proof that he's cheating -- relax. Let him go out with his friends and blow off steam.
Don't just assume he's trying to cheat on you. It all comes down to whether or not he acts trustworthy. Does he come home at 3am reeking of booze and cheap perfume? Is he flirty around other women? Does he never want you to come when he goes out to the club? Yeah, his friends might have his back, but chances are they're good guys who don't want him to cheat and get into another bad situation. Plus, it isn't really their responsibility to keep him in line. If he's going to cheat, that's all on him.
So if you've seen or heard about him grinding on randoms in the club, that's definitely grounds for dumping. But if you're just assuming that he's hitting on other women when he goes out with friends, try not to worry. Talk to him and let him know that you're worried he'll cheat since it's happened before. Hopefully he'll do everything he can to show you that he's faithful.
Nope I'm just assuming. He did cheat on his ex girlfriend w me for a while and I cheated on my ex w him as well. We usually go out together every once in a while he goes out w his friends. This started bc in 8 months he's gone out without me a handful of times and he's like I want to be able to do my own thing sometimes and u not be the only girl there. All his friends are single so that's why I gey worried. We both have very flirty personalities and the only thing he ever does that legit annoys me is check girls out sometimes he does it whether they're young or old its like insticts..is that bad? Anyways due to his past it bothers me and bc he goes home or stays at the hotel w the guys or calls me at 3 am to get him wreacking of booze not perfume.. In 8 months only twice though so that's ok right?
I would dump him. For some reason a guy like that I would never be able to see a future with. if a guy checks another girl out in front of you and is a flirt it's tricky especially if out of the blue he doesnt want you there. If you see yourself with him like marriage wise then stay if not leave now. 9/10 theres someone more compatible for you
well he doesn't want me there out of the blue. He's just like sometimes i need my guy time or space to hang out with other people that aren't you. And if its all the guys and you'er the only girl its strange.
You said, "In 8 months only twice though so that's ok right?"
I guess it all depends on what type of relationship you want and how much you value yourself. This first time would have been enough for me. However, if I did choose to stay after the first time cheating, that he did it again would be it. I guess you need to ask yourself how many times does he have to cheat for it not to be ok? Most likely this behavior will continue since he knows he can cheat and you will stay. This guys sounds young, immature and not like boyfriend material.
Wouldn't you want to be with a man that values and respects you? One that you feel safe with and can trust. There are a lot of good guys out there.
If I were in your shoes, I would dump him and move on.
I don't know if this is cheating but I am really good friends with this guy and I have known him since I was in 2nd grade and now he is 10th grade and I'm in 9th. But anyway I have a boyfriend and he couldn't go to Homecoming and I was grinding with my good friend Kohn
I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years, and he's never done anything sketchy to lose my trust. He's really a great guy, and we're pretty serious, we talk about our future plans. I'm 21 and he's 23. But last month he went on vacation to Cuba with his guy friend. He asked me to come, but I live with my parents who are very traditional and strict, so unfortunately they didn't let me go on vacation with my boyfriend. Anyway, after he came back, i asked him if he danced with any girl there at the disco/club. He said he danced with the Cuban entertainer who works at the resort, but assured me that they danced salsa and other latin dances, not grinding like the clubs here. He also told me shes 38 years old and has a 16 year old son, so she's and older lady and he just wanted to learn salsa and enjoy some dancing. A week later i found some pictures of him and his friend grinding on the Cuban entertainer. They had her sandwiched in the middle, and my boyfriend was behind her and was defininately grinding on her. His hand was wrapped around her hip and their bodies were all over each other. I was upset and i felt betrayed. I confronted him and he told me it looks worse than what it is, and that it was just a joke. He said sorry and seemed very sad, he told me he hates himself for hurting me. I just have a hard time believing him, and i lost trust in him. What do you think of this situation? I told him im willing to forgive him, but im struggling with this. I dont want to be an idiot who forgives a cheater. Do you think he cheated? Please help.