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Is “I really appreciate you” guyspeak for deeper emotions that a guy is uneasy relating to his gal? What do guys usually mean by that phrase? (I just always assume the obvious; ‘he appreciates you, dummy’). Though, sometimes I feel that it’s code for the in-between phase of ‘I really like you’ & ‘I love you.’ Thoughts?

Hmm...I'm going to go ahead and say that most of the time, if a guy says, "I appreciate you" it means just that but it ALSO means, "I'm not really feeling you like that but I enjoy your company when I decide that I want you around". Now it CAN be one of those intermediary terms I suppose between "like" and "love" but from my experience, most of the time when a guy drops the appreciate term on a woman it's because he's realizing that he probably doesn't want to move forward but he doesn't want her to go anywhere either since he's enjoy the nude games that you play.

Basically, it's a "buying time while I figure this out" term. You see, women - I love, women - have such big hearts and always hope for the best that hearing a word like appreciate makes you forget, at least temporarily, that you have no idea where you stand in this man's life and that you wanted more. It's just enough of an indicator that something is there to placate you for at least a week or so. It's not pretty, but it's true.

So determining what is meant by it is based upon the delivery. Does he say it after you ask where you stand? If so, its a copout. If he just up and says to you, out of the blue, "hey baby, you know I appreciate you a lot" it means that he as thinking of you in a way that made him smile and he wanted to let you know. It might not mean he's in love with you, but it definitely points to him liking you a lot. When men start just lobbing compliements and want to make you smile randomly like that, there are definite feelings involved.

Of the warm and fuzzy variety.

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Thank you, Panama, for your sage words. To clarify, the gentleman in question will say this randomly to me, and in the same breath says "you are really wonderful, you're great and I don't know if I say it or show it enough, but you are." Though, just yesterday he did forget himself and blurted out, "you're just the sweetest girl and I f***ing love you" haha, so go figure. Any which way you slice it, it's still a nice thing to hear.

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Panama Jackson, thanks for the very precise explanation. I just had a "friend" tell me this recently, he threw it out at me out of the blue...we've had relations but he's in a sticky situation and refuses for at least the time being really express himself, he refuses to share his true feelings for me...he's say that opens the door to feelings he can't do anything about for now. We have form a bond sort of speak. BUT I REFUSE to call him it frustrates me that he can't share how he feels yet I feel I'm always playing the guessing game when he calls me. He gets upset whenever I question him on why he still calls me like I'm supposed to figure it out!! Hello, just tell me?

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