Not at all! The mistletoe, the twinkling lights, the tipsy office parties…the holidays are a great time for new love. A few things to keep in mind, however:
– Be prepared to not see him all that much. Between parties, shopping, and family obligations, you might not have much time together between now and January 2nd. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make an effort to see each other. If evening dates are out of the question, you could meet up for lunch or coffee and check out some holiday decorations. Take whatever time you can together, but remember that you have an entirely holiday-free month coming up.
– Go easy on gifts. If it’s early on, don’t feel obligated to get him a lavish gift. An expensive gift could make him think you want to get serious and put too much pressure on the relationship at an early stage. Exchanging small gifts is fine (something handmade would be ideal), but you shouldn’t feel like you have to get him anything if you’ve just started dating.
– Plan New Year’s carefully. Like Halloween, New Year’s can be stressful on new relationships. If you already have plans, you might feel obligated to accommodate your new guy. Are you ready for your friends to meet him? Is he ready to meet your friends? And if you aren’t together for the evening, who are you going to kiss at midnight? Planning for the perfect night, coupled with booze, can often lead to drama. If you’re into the guy, you might opt for a quiet night in together. Otherwise, go easy on the shots if New Year’s ends up being your second date.
–Don’t play “meet the family.” It’s far too early for that potential awkwardness. Do your own family stuff, and text him when Uncle Steve goes off on another rant about Obamacare.
Mostly, though, you should get to know each other the same way you would during any other time of the year. Don’t let the holidays put unneeded stress on the relationship. Hopefully you’ll have future holidays together to worry about gifts and drunken Uncle Steve.