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Is it normal to have a love/hate relationship with your significant other that you have been dating for nine months?

If your version of "love/hate" is the same as my version, then you need to run for the hills.

For me, a "love/hate" relationship means that you and your partner oscillate between passion and utter loathing, with very little warning before the switch. You could be having a profound and beautiful conversation that suddenly devolves into a screaming match. You end every night either furious or in each other's arms. It's a concept straight from a movie, and it sounds a lot more romantic on big screen than it actually is.

If this is what you're experiencing, you need to leave. Being happy 50% of the time and being really unhappy the other 50% of the time is no way to live your life. There are men or women out there that can make you happy nearly all of the time. So don't compromise. Staying with the person you're with now represents compromise, and your willingness to let drama and anger into your life.

So, in short, is it normal? Yes. A "love/hate" relationship is perfectly normal, in the week before the break up.

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Yeah I felt like that towards the guy I was dating, mainly because he didnt care about my feelings and did some things that hurt me. At times the hate was stronger than love, but guess what happened? I started being honest. I started talking about 'me' instead of him. I started expressing myself. And I changed how i talked to him. I changed how interacted with him and he turned around and started being sweet to me. He wants to see me more, I can tell his hostility towards me is slowly diminishing and so has mine.

Hate manifests when two people lost respect for each other. If you can rebuild respect and trust, then you both can override the feeling of hate and hostility and move towards love. No healthy relationship can thrive on hate. What worked? Respect, trust, and this little thing call Kindness. Treat people how you would like to be treated. Simple as that.

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