You know, there are much worse people he could be talking about all the time. What if he had an insane crush on, like, Sarah Palin.
*shudder*
I do think its odd that your man is constantly talking about Beyoncé. Like, how does that even happen? Is he an effeminate straight man? Wheredeydodatat? Hell, I think Beyoncé is hot and all and I'd love to use my hall pass with her but I actually don't think I've ever had a convo about her without a gaggle of women around hating and saying she wasn't that hot.
The fact that he keeps telling you is some non-sense. I know people are open with their sig others and tell them their unattainable fantasies, but it usually starts and ends with that one random convo that somebody managed to get into one day. After that, you leave it alone. You need to just let him know that it bothers you and it makes you feel like he's not interested in you because he isn't always talking about you. He'll try to brush you off at first and say that she's not somebody he will ever get and he'll tell you that he loves you.
But don't let him deflect like that. It's not about him, it's about you and how he's making you feel. And if he won't stop...well, just let him know that he's not "irreplaceable."
Oh, and a well-timed, "you must don't know about me" will go a long way.
To the left.
BEYONCE IS HOT HOT HOT!!! LIKE GODDESS SHIT HOT! I am a woman and I was a fan, but when I went to her concert and she came on stage, everyone was blown away! Gay men were screaming, women were in envy, and white men drooled! It was crazy, she was literally a goddess. Aphrodite has nothing on her! OMG! LITERALLY, AND THEN SHE OPENED HER MOUTH. Talk about talent, She can sing, she can dance, and shes a walking goddess! Dont be jealos, because once youve seen her, you wont be. It will be like, YOU WILL HAVE THE CRUSH not your boyfriend. TRUST ME, SHES IT!
man. I used to go by "b" on here. I regret that now.
haha a guy in one of my classes has the hits for Sarah Palin.
A boyfriend used to do that for a while when we first met, cept he was all about Ciara this or Mariah that. I finally told him I got tired of it and how annoying it was and it stopped on a dime.
This guy has to get a grip on reality. Beyonce is with Jay Z after all. That's not smart for a boyfriend to gush about any woman to the point of alienating his girlfriend... Tell him it bothers you. And if he continues even knowing it makes you sad - then you know. You have to matter to him...
I just love the answer. To the left, haha. Beyonce has some good music, but I don't see the appeal.. everyone has a huge ass nowadays, it's not a novelty anymore.
It's a novelty if it's real, lol
She is that hot, it's not the novelty of her ass, she is just absolutely gorgeous. I'm a straight female, and I can't deny that no matter how jealous i could be. I'm not a fan of her music, she's got a great voice, but it's not my style. Any way, he should have more respect for you then to constantly go on bout his celebrity crush.
If you're his girl, he should be into you. Sure, he can find other girls attractive but you should be his number one, not the girl he's just settling for...and the fact that he keeps going on about it: completely disrespectful to you. Odds are slim to none that he'll meet Beyonce and even less likely that he'll ever get a chance to date her but hypathetically if he could, he'd probably give you up an instant to be with her. As I said, that's extremely hypathetical but still, that's basically what he's saying. The fact that he'd never get the chance to is irrelevant. You should never have to settle for a guy who's even wishing for that. That just makes you his consolation prize.
If you're his girl, he should be into you. Sure, he can find other girls attractive but you should be his number one, not the girl he's just settling for...and the fact that he keeps going on about it: completely disrespectful to you. Odds are slim to none that he'll meet Beyonce and even less likely that he'll ever get a chance to date her but hypathetically if he could, he'd probably give you up an instant to be with her. As I said, that's extremely hypathetical but still, that's basically what he's saying. The fact that he'd never get the chance to is irrelevant. You should never have to settle for a guy who's even wishing for that. That just makes you his consolation prize.
If you talk to him about it and he doesn't stop, it's also pretty weird. Think about it in reverse: if you were constantly talking about some celebrity and how hot they were, and your real-life boyfriend told you that bummed him out, and you were like, "well that's too bad because this person I've never met and know nothing about besides what I've seen in magazines and on television is my one true love and I NEED to rant and rave about them day in and day out, it's the only way I cope with my obsession", wouldn't he be reasonable to ditch you and your shrine for someone a little more grounded?
Her picture in a magazine should have nothing on your real heart, mind, laugh, smell, body, etc. If he's more interested in a fantasy (which, realistically, is not an accurate picture EVEN OF BEYONCE (I'm sure she has wrinkles/ cellulite/ gross personal habits/ farts like the rest of us)), than you as a real person who can actually interact with him, then he's definitely not ready for a relationship.
As a side note, I wonder if part of the draw for folks with intense celebrity crushes is the inaccessibility/ lack of demands of the object of their fascination. In other words, that person has no expectations of them, there's no need for real intimacy, that kind of thing. It seems pretty juvenile/ a little bit creepy to me. (It's one thing to appreciate and acknowledge a celebrity's beauty; it's another thing to fixate on them as if they are someone you have any real knowledge of/ relationship with.)