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Is it okay to try and slip a finger up my boyfriend's backdoor while fooling around?

Honestly, you can figure this one out yourself. Just close your eyes and try walking a mile in your boyfriend's shoes (or with his finger up your butt, as may be the case). Would it be okay with you if he tried to steal fifth base in the middle of a game?

Maybe it would be. Anal play can be a lot of fun, and guys' prostates are like big organic happy sacks stuck up our bums, so hammering on that bad boy isn't always going to be unwelcome. In the end (GET IT?!?!?!?!?!), most sexual maneuvers performed on a guy are just indirect attempts to spur the prostate into action; you've just decided to take the direct route.

But there's also the possible discomfort, shock value, and, let's face it, poo to think about, so I think it'd be far wiser to ask him about it before diving in. I know that kills a little bit of the spontaneity of it all, but if you felt the need to ask, I'm assuming you aren't the type of couple who expect each other to whip out fancy new moves without introduction or, failing that, some kind of dramatic countdown.

And trust me, it's usually best not to be the first one to try and use the bedroom as a testing ground, or you risk embarrassing mission failure (or even worse, retaliation).

This is something you should definitely be able to ask your boyfriend about. It's not weird, it's not creepy, and it can be done healthfully and safely. In fact, it's kind of funny, especially when he figures out it triples the intensity of his orgasm and never lets you take your finger out of there. But it's certainly not for everyone, so one thing it probably shouldn't be is a surprise.

And if you DO decide to go for it, remember the three cardinal rules:


  1. No rings.

  2. No fake nails (those things fall off).

  3. Wash your hands if you've been touching onions. For the love of all that is good.

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15 Comments

Jess

"Wash your hands if you've been touching onions. For the love of all that is good."

Why? I'm absolutely baffled, and so I google'd a few key phrases... and I learned that onions in the rectum helps relieve hemorrhoids, so it seems unlikely that pain is the answer.

Michael Swaim

You know what, you're totally right. Go ahead and try it.

Jess

No, no. I am absolutely going to take your word for it!

Little Lady

Oh and NO PEPPER! My God. That will burn for HOURS!

grayeyeddame

LMFAO Onions!?! I love it... also something to note about what not to stick in certain places... I don't care what anyone says alcaseltsor in the vagina isn't fun during sex, ESPECIALLY if the guy doesn't let it dissolve fully first!

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So what about just a little bit in? keeping nails short, and what does the prostate feel like? I have recently tried anal sex and let my bf in and it is not bad just in need of alot of lube time and patience! I have slipped my finger just a little bit in while going down on him and he hasnt complained and by his reaction seemed to not mind a bit!

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what does the prostate feel like? how do i know i found it? i have slipped me finger partially into my bf while going down on him he appears to not mind so much at all! lol no fingernails of course and barely inside.

Michael Swaim

Check out the link in my post. It's a how-to guide for finding the prostate. The basic gist is you go in a bit, crook your finger, and feel for a walnut-sized lump. Sounds sexy, right?

Rebecca

ITS NOT OKAY FOR GIRLS!!!!!! Girls don't give, we recieve it. Let the guy be the dirty punkass. Its hot.....LOL

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lol @ the onion tag. I wonder if that tag will ever get used again.

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I don't think you need to ask him first. Just start touching around, put a little pressure, and see his reaction. If he is not comfortable with it he will quickly move in discomfort or gently take your hand away. If he acts excited, I guess you can go deeper, but I'd say don't go all the way on your first try.

drizzt1750

I've got acrylic nails, not very long, should I not try this? I'm kinda thinking that my FWB would enjoy this... but I don't want to hurt him. (I love him!!)

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