Tricky business. Do you cast the dude off or let him dangle? Do you keep him close and see how he cooks over time or do you trust your gut and toss him? Here’s what I do know: you are entitled to date someone you aren’t madly in love with. You are also entitled to date someone who happens to be pretty madly in love with you. But sooner or later those drives, those desires for a future have to snyc up. Otherwise the inequality will breed resentment, terrible insecurity and the kind of playing field that makes a ball roll down a hill and into a toxic sewer drain.
This can all be navigated if you keep the channels of communication open and you keep expectations clear. It’s when dudes start buying $2000 jackets for their girls, or when girls max out their credit card on a Rolex or surprise their man with an all expense trip to Paris that shiz get’s difficult. So long as both parties have a gauge as to how things are going NOW, it is OK to not know for certain what THEN will yield.
Reminds me of the quote: If you love someone set them free. But in this case, If you don’t love someone, set them free too. Or maybe it’s best summed up as Du-mp unto others as you would have others du-mp unto you.