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Is it okay to flirt with guys just for fun or is that considered being a tease?

Tease (N.) - One who flirts with guys just for fun.

At least, from a guy's perspective. I can say without question that this practice is responsible for more broken hearts, bruised egos, and unsatisfying masturbatory sessions than any other female behavior.

But the objective blogger in me must look at it from your point of view and wonder: why should a woman limit her ability to talk to men (assuming we're talking about harmless filrting--chatting, joking, small talk--here, and not tucking the key to your hotel room into the back of his pants) just because we get a little jealous?

You say friendly, open, and affectionate, we say tease. The truth is somewhere between, and it's a balance that will shift forever, unfortunately. Even guys that dumped you probably don't want to see you flirting with anyone else. It's one of those double standards we can't really shake, because on some level we all still think of the room as a pack of dogs and us as the Alpha who gets all 'dem fine bitches.

Go figure.

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At least we're only flirting. You guys take it to the next level and then dump the girl... Pffff..... :)

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I don't see what the big deal is - guys do this all the time. They ask a girl for their number just for the sport of it with no intention of ever calling. I once saw a guy friend flirt up a storm with a random girl, ask for the girl's number, then when she walked away tell me he was just giving her an ego boost because she's not hot enough to bother with (which I knew meant he needed an ego boost and I called him on it. What kind of an ego boost is it for the girl when she realizes he's never calling?). So the OP flirts and leaves em' and a few guys get a taste of their own medicine - in the end people will end up with who they're meant to end up with. No harm, no foul.

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Depends - perhaps the same ego boost when he calls and she never answers. What is your point?

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Call me dense, but I don't see why this would hurt anyone if it's done innocently. Now if the girl is rubbing herself all over the guy, and then is trash-talking him an hour later, that I can see. But if she's just telling him that blue is a good color on him or just has a friendly conversation with him, that doesn't mean she's interested (though that may be the case, sometimes it's not). She may just be trying to be nice.

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We are not bitches.

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hey, women wouldn't be such bitches if men weren't such dogs!!!!

kelli

Sensitive ladies?

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LOL. tagged as "how to get a stalker". creepy and hilarious.

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Innocent flirting is just that- innocent. No one's signing any contracts obligating them to take it to the next level. In my experience, harmless flirting tends to go both ways. If I jokingly flirt with a male co-worker, say, and he jokingly flirts back, we both know it means nothing. We could both be in relationships, and it's fine, because we understand it's more of a way to liven up the workplace boredom than anything else. If one of you doesn't seem to get that, then back off, but you can't be held to promises that you're not actually making.
Unless, say, your idea of flirting is constantly posting comments on a website that imply a non-existent relationship with the writer. In which case, you better back that shit up.

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