is it true that some guys would have sex with a "fat," girl but never date her/publically acknowledge their relationship? I literally saw a guy kiss a plus size girl goodbye, and then turn around tell his friend, "she's a scooter.. i only ride her at night in private." they had a good laugh...what's up with that?
Dan Seitz answered Gabriella S.'s question on
October 4, 2011 8:50 AM
Some people are, well, jerks.
It is true that there are guys who do this, but they're the exception, and a lot of the time, it's an exaggeration: she's using him for sex just as much as he is. But he's got to keep his macho pride: it's just because I'm so horny, bro!
It's usually a good indication for guys that'll be terrible in a relationship, so that's useful, at least.
And I'm sure it's not limited to 'fat' girls either...
True~ not limited to fatties.: )
But, to RP... women generally do not do the "using for sex." Most of us are generally trying to date someone and end up getting manipulated. I'm sure women do it too, but not as a hobby.
Really? Then here is a hint, don't have sex until you've had other stuff. . . like a date out in public.
Ooohohoho. There are women that do that as a hobby. Manipulating guys into sex just for fun/having them buy them stuff, stuff like that. It's awful.
Setari replied but makes a spot on point; women can and do use sex to manipulate men. It's not a man/woman thing, its a human thing.
All we can do is not be the manipulators, and spot them ourselves so we don't get manipulated.
"Fatties?" That's nice and very mature.
“Scooters…, they’re fun, but you don’t want to be caught riding one."
Yes…, guys are lame.
(I heard a guy make that comment before.)
This could not be less true. I'm sure there are scum bags out there like this but I know plenty of bigger people who are in really good solid relationships.
There's probably more than you think. :/
The OP is surprised this happens?!?
I've seen this quite often. Men who couldn't attract the women they desired, so they settle, manipulate, and use women they have no intention of keeping. Indeed, I was teased by other men, for not doing that very thing.
And have you ever known any of them to end up falling for those women? In your experience?
Yes, with the people I've know for a long, long time, I know one guy who actually grew up, realized he did have a good thing going. And then he empowered her, she ended up losing weight. She already had a pretty face, so now, in her mid 30s, she really looks much better than she did in her 20s.
Even better though, some of these women wised up and realized they were simply being used by losers and kicked their asses to the curbs. I may have had a hand in that...
A friend of mine now and I were dating the same guy. She caught a huge girl going into his apartment late at night. She went in and found her naked in his bed. My friend is attractive, and so am I. Why did he do that? Apparently he is manipulating women, and I was in love with him. I thought he was a good man. My question is does anyone know what kind of man he is. probably not a sociopath, but just a sex addict or hard up? We both live at a distance, and both of us had been introduced to his child.
Sadly I find I can't get all of my needs met from one woman, each has qualities that are unique and "perfected" individually. I wish i could build a mosaic of their best qualities. Music with Kelly, Motorcycles with Deb, Talking with Jan, and Partying with Jen. It has varying weeks of success.
I am honest from the start, that I am not monogamous, and those who are okay with say yes to my second date request. I treat them all very well, with love, respect, and care. I'd prefer them to have other relationships also. I never understood how men could have multiple wives until I just became honest with what I was feeling. It is less about sex and more about filling mutual emotional needs, I'm not good-looking or wealthy I am just honest kind and decent to women.