It really doesn't matter if he swears not to send them. I'm not insulting the honesty of the gentleman in question, just simply the fact that he has no way of knowing his phone won't fall into the hands of, say, a criminal.
Or into the hands of his d**khead "friends", which is the much more likely scenario.
In the modern age, assume anything you send to anybody is essentially public, because it's easy to make it so. If she's OK with strangers seeing her in her underwear, then she's good. If not, then keep the pictures clothed.
It's not wrong if she is over 18 and therefore an adult capable of making her own decisions and accepting the consequences of bad ones.
It's not smart either though, because like RP says, at the end of the day, anything you put on the net, regardless of "privacy" settings or whatever, is going to be public domain. If she don't mind seeing her undie pics on some sleazy porn site then by all means go for it...
There's a site (isanyoneup.com) devoted to sending in pictures of ex-girlfriend/boyfriends for revenge. I personally find it awful, but the fact is, it happens all the time. Be careful who you show.
I totally agree. The existence of isanyoneup.com is reason enough to not send naked pics, no matter what anyone says. Relationships end and not always nicely. You really don't want a ticking time bomb like that, waiting to bite you in the ass later.
Don't forget the old trick of not having your face in any of the pics. Doesn't solve all the problems, but may make it a little more comfortable .
I think something very essential yet simple was overlooked here.
1. This was sent in by a guy who wants pictures of his girlfriend in her underwear.
2. It was made clear that the woman in question does not want to take/share these pictures.
If someone says no to having naughty pictures taken (or any other act,) I think that should be the end of it. No questions asked, no whining on the internet to anyone, etc.
Out of respect for your girlfriend, you should accept that she doesn't want to send you naughty pictures and move on. Continuing to ask after she's said no is just a form of sexual harassment in my mind.
No means no; keep that in mind.
Unless rules and grammar of the English language have radically and completely changed, I read this question as being from a friend (either male or female) who thinks sending undies pics is wrong, of a female friend who is considering sending underwear pictures:
1. The first part of the question asks "Is it wrong...".
2. The OP then answers he/she says "yes", which I interpret as meaning "yes, it is wrong".
3. The OP goes on to say "but she thinks otherwise", which I interpreted as meaning "she", they 'hypothetical' woman in question who may or may not be sending pics of herself in undies, doesn't think it is wrong.
4. Conclusion, I see the OP being against his/her friend sending risque pics of herself and is asking Guyspeak advice to bolster support to convince the friend its not a good thing to do.
I sensed no sexual harrassment in the question. Believe it or not, there are women who a little - or even no - prompting or asking send risque or even outright nude photos of themselves. It's their right, assuming they are of legal age, but with sites like isanyoneup.com, its just not a smart thing to do.
It isn't wrong in the moral sense, it's just a bad idea.