There is nothing categorically wrong with any sex act so long as it filled with shame and delivered with hate. I kid. I kid. There is nothing categorically wrong with any sex act as long as it is practiced consensually and hygienically.
You are supposing that the mere act of licking and tongue-lashing an anus says something bad about you. And the answer is no. Again, unless you are performing this act on a cat or cousin, and on a filthy tushie, there is no spiritual basis to feel down on yourself.
Yes, religion, society, hell, even many people who comment on Guyspeak itself cast strong judgment and pressure on certain sex acts -those who rock anal sex are whores; Titty-F*ckers have low IQ; those who 69 often are prone to rob you, Nonsense.
Show me the one-to-one correlation between rim jobs and 'wrongness'; show me the statistics that licking ass means anything more than: Hello, I lick ass.
Keep your licks coming, Anonymous. You derive pleasure from it and I assume so too does the owner of the rim. Pat yourself on the back for letting yourself expand your sexual horizons and don't let your Puritanical schooling, and the sexually repressed poop on your parade.
The guy I'm dating is really into giving RJ. He talks about it, and then cracks jokes that he's a freak, I think because he feels a little guilty. I keep telling him it's cool, and there's nothing wrong with liking it.
The other side of this is, I know he wants to do it to me. I'm open, but we are not really "there" yet in your relationship (haven't had sex yet). He seems more focused on feeling out my level of kink, then the deeper intimacy I want right now. Like, let's start at level 1 before we get to 8, right? I don't know, is he worried about our sexual compatibility? So far- it's been amazing.
Should I talk to him about it, or just let things happen as they happen?
He may be concerned about sexual compatibilty & as you want to foster a deeper intimacy first, he may not want to bother if you ultimately you're incompatible sexually. I'm not saying you should rush the physical stuff but let him know what kinds of things you are interested in or wouldnt mind trying later on down the road. That way you'll both get a better idea of what the other likes and if those things are compatible. Also, if you're only responding with "there's nothing wrong with liking it" you're letting him know that you're not being judgemental about it but you're also not letting him know if its something you like/would be willing to try or if its something that you're uncomfortable with. This may be why he keeps bringing it up, he's trying to figure out if you'll eventually let him do it.
AH, good points! You're right, I did answer his other questions about sexuality, but I don't think I directly answered if I'd be interested in receiving his "gift." : ) I think I would maybe, down the road, if/when we became a couple. Because it gives him such pleasure, and I'm curious.
We are both interested in pleasing each other, which is nice. I also think we are approaching this in different ways. I want a relationship that evolves into sex, he (it seems) wants sex that evolves into a relationship. I know his last gf started as a booty call, but I'm just not wired that way. Maybe it's confusing things to talk about sex, but we just have a very open rapport about everything.
I think it's great that you're both talking about this stuff, instead of just jumping in. I find sometimes people who have sex are too embarressed to even talk about protection and the like, in which case, why are they even sleeping together? It doesn't seem like he only wants the sex, rather he wants to know what you're comfortable with so that he knows not to push the boundaries. Either way, talking is always good. :)
Yeah I have to agree with X there. The thing is, I like to give rimjobs but feel ticklish when receiving them, I guess I'm pretty open to most things and would like a partner who feels the same. My last partner wouldn't even go down on me as he felt it was dirty or something but had no issues with letting me go down on him (go figure), but hey thats why hes 'last partner' as in past tense. If you havnt slept with the guy and hes hanging around there must be something more in it for him than JUST getting to the kinky stuff, hopefully. The guy who just left my place 69'd last night and all my stuff is still here buy the way, so I can confirm Amit is right on that one :)
I can't stand the idea of receiving a rimjob, Giving one however is a different story... though I also don't like being eaten out, but enjoy giving a bj, so not super surprising I guess?
I applaud your answer Funny Guy!! It is very sad for me to even see someone ask a question like this. No it is not "wrong". The mainstream monotheistic Judeo-Christian oppression we all still have ingrained into our brains is wrong, and it sickens me. As long as you're not hurting anyone, do whatever and whoever you wish. So often i see people commenting, even on this website (which i love by the way), things like, "How many people can i sleep with before i am considered a whore?" and other such ridiculousness. The instincts and desires of human nature were around LONG before the 'bible' started trying to say it was 'wrong' or 'dirty'. Wake up.
While I agree with your overall point, I wish you hadn't blamed it all on Christianity. I'm a Christian and also super freaky in bed. Maybe lots of Christians aren't, but I sort of look at sex as all the same. Whether you're kissing someone or licking their rear, as long as it comes from a good, loving place, it's still just a physical expression of your feelings. Sure, plenty of people in my Conservative area would scoff at me, but that's the way I feel.
Besides, the Bible never says anything about rimjobs (not that you said that, but still). It says lots of restrictions on sexual activity, but by and large they are found in the Old Testament along with not eating cloven-hooved animals and not "trimming the ends of your beard." The New Testament nullified a lot of the strict rules, as Jesus informed everyone that the little details are so much less important that simply being a well-intentioned, forgiving, and non-judgemental person.
Like I said, I see your point, but as a Christian, I felt compelled to defend my religion a bit and remind you that Christians are far from the homogenous, close-minded group that many people view us as.