Ha! Your question made me laugh. It's a legitimate question--it just cracked me up. I could picture you sitting there drinking a cocktail and rolling your eyes while your date chugs on a Mike's and gnaws on hot wings.
I don't know if it's wrong, but we all do it, and not just with liquor. If you're at a ritzy restaurant known for its wine selection and your date orders a Bud Light, it's hard not to look down your nose at him. I suppose a man's beverage preferences say something about his maturity and sophistication, but I've also learned firsthand the dangers of judging a book by its cover.
This is the kind of thing I would file under minor annoyances or pink flags, small things that make you wonder about compatibility but aren't necessarily deal-breakers, like bad shoes or cheap cologne. But then, everyone is different; these things might be deal-breakers to you. If so, that's not wrong. We all have preferences. But I would still advise you not to jump to conclusions based on one miscue. Wouldn't it suck to toss aside a truly good guy just because you think hard lemonade is lame?
Thanks for the question.
"Wouldn't it suck to toss aside a truly good guy just because you think hard lemonade is lame?"
That line sums it up very well, I think. It seems like a rather insignificant thing to judge someone by to me.
I think judging in general is wrong. No matter what he orders, eats or drinks. It's plain wrong to try to determine who somebody is just because they ordered a lemonade and you didn't.
This question cracked me up as well, mostly because I have done the same thing! Yes, it is wrong to judge a man by his drink order, but it sheds some insight into his personality, I think. I once dated a guy who ordered a strawberry daiquiri when we went out to a bar, and we weren't on vacation in a tropical paradise, trust me. Really, dude? To me it said that he: a. had some balls and confidence to order that, b. perhaps he wasn't a heavy drinker, and c. that maybe he was a little high maintenance. I was right on two of those things. He had confidence and was a bit high maintenance, but was also a heavy drinker. I never did find out what was up with that drink order.
Anyway, Cary's right. Hard lemonade is shouldn't really be a deal breaker- maybe he just likes it and is confident and comfortable enough to order it.
Oh, I can totally see a woman leaving a guy because of the drink he ordered. I saw a woman break off with a guy because his belt was slightly off color from his shoes, and mind you, she was praising this guy for being everything she wanted.
herm... well I am the one who asked the question. Twas supposed to be light-hearted, but I guess those sorts of things tend to get lost in strictly textual communications and such :( Anyway, as I stated (perhaps not very articulately) , I do not view it as a deal-breaker. But I would be lying if I said that it didn't hit me with a fleeting tinge of puppydog-head-tilt-to-the-side-ness. Was merely curious if this happened to anyone else. I shall keep my random ponderings out of cyberspace since my thoughts just don't come across correctly.
Thanks for the responses though.
Aww, I found it funny, I'm totally guilty of doing it too sometimes, I judge them more on their reaction to me teasing them about it though!
Hehe, yes it's hard to convey emotional context through text alone.
Trust me though, you are far from the only one who's wonder about their potential partner over something like choice of drink. I think even here on GS, looking through the archives, I've come across similar questions regarding movies or even opinions on news items.
Just glad that you wouldn't break off over a drink choice, I've known others who easily would.
I liked getting my dates to guess what drink I'll have and then judging them heartlessly when they get it wrong. Truly my boything is lucky to have me.
Weirdest drink order I ever experienced was... grape juice! But he later explained that he isn't a fan of beer or drinking a lot, and also really likes grape juice (and sweet things in general). He turned out to be a complete sweetheart, and also very easy to bribe with chocolate :) And wasn't immature, which was my worry with the grape juice order. He had his own internet company and was a great communicator. It didn't work out in the long run, but he is a great friend to this day.
I do judge a guy by what he drinks. I like guys who order good beers, craft beers or Guinness because I drink them. I like men who can educate me on different types of beers, vodkas, whiskey, etc. My father said to me if you are going to drink, drink well. In other words not the cheap or weak stuff such as light beer.
I agree! A refined taste is usually a good sign to me! Although I have to admit I prefer educating each other rather than being educated :)
I'm a total foodie that loves all food. Every once in a while, cheap beer and wings totally hit the spot. If it bugs you that much, have an date with transportation lined up or at home where you sample cocktails. Chances are there'll be something besides Mike's hard lemonade he'll like.
My brother wasn't a big drinker growing up (He loved Smirnoff Ice,lol). He grew up and tastes changed. If you're fairly young, there's a pretty good odds that the drink order will change anyway.
I once dated a pretty successful guy and we went to a well known steak restaurant. He ordered WHITE WINE with his steak. I know it may sound snobby but I just couldn't get past it.
Golden Corral?
hahaha! :D
Believe it or not, it was The Palm. I just looked at him.