The fact that you have to ask is a sad statement about the ineffable gap between genders. Although speaking of effable gaps, use this handy guide to determine in which state of arousal you currently are.
If you:
--Hear Barry White playing softly on a turntable.
--Are just the slightest bit tipsy from bucket-chilled champagne.
--Want to spend the rest of your life in this moment and, looking in their eyes, know they feel exactly the same way. You may have high fived, or just silently winked. Wunk?
--Are bathed in the soft glow of tea candles floating in a glass ball of water.
--Are pressed against silken sheets, the soft grass of a windswept field on a chill spring morning, or any equally poignant surface.
Then you are MAKING LOVE.
On the other hand, if you:
--Hear Beastie Boys playing through the wall from the other room.
--Are blasted on jungle juice, jell-o shots, and something called a "Jageraketini."
--Plan to be home in bed in time for Conan.
--Are bathed in the soft glow of a cell phone camera.
--Are inside a bathroom of any kind, or really anywhere in an establishment where money can be exchanged for goods or services.
Then you are HAVING SEX. I hope that clears up any confusion.
Maybe I'm a little simpleminded here, but if you're in love, then that's what you're makin' and if you're not, then you just having sex. ;)
Completely agree. Sex is a physical act, while "making love" is an expression of affection. Okay, in the end, it's basically the same thing, but the difference is in where your head is (in your heart or in your pants, I guess).
oh lord! Sorry but I have a different opinion and i think i have lived enough to know what I am talking about. Just because you're in love doesnt mean you cant have sex or make love. You dont even have to be in love to make love. Sometimes, you wanna change the routine and express your feeling through the act. THAT is what makes it so great.
It kinda makes sense, but the real problem lies in that I call it making love and my boyfriend says that there is no such thing, that sex is just sex and that is that. Idk should I be offended at this or just accept it?
It does answer the question a little bit, but I guess the real problem lies in that I think that there is a difference and my bf (whom I love and who syas he loves me) says that sex is just sex and thats all there is to it. There is no such thing as making love...its all just sex. Should I feel offended that he thinks that all we do is just have sex, not ever make love? I'm not really sure and I guess that is what really has me confused.
Offer to show him the difference....
One time you can be soft and sexy and alluring.....the next time you can bang it out hop out of bed, put your jeans on and tell him you're running to the store...does he need anything???
Sex is sex. Plain and simple. Horny is f#&*%$!.you canbe selective in all three. Makinn love arouses all of the senses. Some time and thought is invested. It's special: candles.dinner, dancin' etc. I's more when two people are mutually, exclusively into each other. Sex is a little more low key. And the other can be both sex and making love. Rippin' clothes off and tearin' up some ish