Yeah don't be suckered in for every guy like this there's many SINGLE less issues no strange sudden appearance by a wife wanting to take your eyes out and set your hair on fire while kicking you or him suddenly saying he can't see you as it's his turn to have the kids for the summer ect ect guys out there.

It just takes time sorting the weeds from the flowers for your life is all. There no reason to go macking on someone else's partner so go have fun with friends and such because if this guy is any kind of serious about leaving the wife he'll be telling you the divorce proceedings or would have had you to his place even for coffee or a mid day lunch by now.

So leave him go have fun meeting other guys with nothing weighing them down. Though don't discredit single dads right out, if I had I wouldn't be with my wonderful BF and getting to know his 2 kids ^^ but only if you feel you can handle kids, if not stay on the path for single unattached guys who at most have a roomie who's a bit of a slob.

In some states, a divorce can not begin to be granted until the married couple live apart for one year. He is married...

Yes there is mos def something wrong w/ you. Him being married should be a red flag. Him living w/ his wife for financial reason should be a red flag. Him claiming the reason why he's w/ her is because of his kid is a red flag. These are all big signs that he is untrustworthy and he's trying to run some kinda game on you.
Take it for what you see in front of you. A guy who is married and unhappy in his relationship. If being second to a wife and kid is your thing, by all means..... Go head. But there is somebody better out there waiting for you so stop wasting your time even considering messing w/ this liar. Would you even want to be w/ a man that had so much going on in his personal life? And, if one of your girlfriends told you this was going on in her life, what advice would you give to her?

For real? Why would you even consider that for a nanosecond? No $h!T he is full of crap. Like Cary said, “…people who want to be apart find a way to be apart.” Let's just act like he isn’t full of crap, he’s the type of guy who isn’t motivated to move on with his life. He settles…, why should you?

I agree, if they are still living together for whatever bs reason he's giving you then they are still getting it on in every sense.

Run girl, fast.

Maybe he is staying for his kid.... which indicates he will probably be staying until his kid is at least EIGHTEEN. Then, what if the kid goes to college? Then, what if he has grandkids and wants to stay for them? I'm not trying to twist a knife here...just speaking from experience -- the best way to keep yourself from being emotionally hurt for years to come is to cut ties now. I tried telling myself having him in my life as a friend was better than not having him in my life at all. Not so sure now. My advice, for what it is worth, is run now -- before your 'really really like him' turns to 'love him.' Karma bites.

Hell ya its wrong think about it if the shoe was on the other foot that is so ugly i am 33 never cheated but have been cheated on and it dont feel good i have also been the one that thinks its all good and he wants out and i am the last to know. run run as fast as your little legs will go becuse if he will do it to her he will do it to you

IDK, I know at least two guys who are married and doing the same thing. Plus, divorce is really expensive. I'm not saying it is ok, I'm just saying that we dont know enough about the situation to pass judgement. Best thing she can do is investigate more. Let your concerns be known, and tell him what your needs and goals are for the relationship. If you get a lot of excuses, you know he is full of it.

My best friend's parents lived together for 4 years purely for financial stability...they only divorced a year ago. And, prior to my dad dying, my parents were separated and were living together, again, purely for financial reasons. So it does happen.

That being said, I don't agree that this is right. I think situations as the above are the exception, not the standard.

Speaking from experience, two married people can absolutely still be living in the same house (for financial reasons, for children, whatever) and not be in love/getting it on. My parents did that for almost 10 years, both eventually ended up dating other people before getting divorced. You're probably saving this guy from misery right now. Just saying.

hi i was the one who asked and everyone thanks for your in put i have been in the same situation as well and i still am seeing this and for the time being we are just dating and taking things slow......

I say go for it. All you need to do is talk with the wife and get her permission.

Normally I'd say the guy is full of crap BUT for the past two years I have been living this "lie". My ex and I (no, we're not divorced YET) do live in the same house but have two different bedrooms, his upstairs and mine down. We only live together because of our mortgage and once we can sell the house the divorce proceedings will start. We've even gone as far as filing child support to have that established and have one less thing to worry about when we file for divorce. He does his thing and I do mine, if he wants to date it's fine by me and vice versa I just choose not to because I know our relationship/situation is 'hard to believe' for almost everyone.