It's not a turn off to 99 percent of the male populace. In fact, I feel like your guy gave you the hightest of high compliments. Do you know how many women would love for their man to think say that sex with them is like having sex with a pr0n star? A lot.
In fact, I'm wondering if you're a plant for a woman's cause who just wants some self-validation and a little bit of a hi-five. Or just fishing for a reason to have a gang of women come out of the woodwork and ask you how you did it. Yep, this was all a manipulative ruse for me to tell you that you're great in the sack.
I've slept with some women who bored me to absolute tears. I quit them. While good sex won't necessarily keep a man, bad sex will definitely help usher him out the door. So if you're pulling out the pr0n catalog during coitus and your man isn't saying that it turns him off, then there's a good chance he's happy with your performance - which is exactly what that is.
And to answer your question, you're only too loud during sex if the police get called, and even then you can chalk it up to jealousy. So do you...and him...and let the good times roll.
I'm loud too. Like, really, REALLY, borderline-shouting loud. Never gotten any complaints. Although I did read that women usually get loud when they're bored during sex, as they're hoping it will help the guy along, thereby ending it sooner. Women who are seriously aroused usually quiet down. At first, I thought it wasn't true, but then I thought about it and realized that it sort of is, in my case at least.
Point being, guys, don't just assume that a girl is enjoying sex because she's being loud. She might be, or she might just be putting on a show for you, as I realized I sometimes do.
Oh, and not like my one experience defines the subject, but I once had sex with a guy who had only been with one girl before me. He took one look at my landing strip and said "Whoa--I thought only porn stars did that." At first, I was like, "hell yeah!" Until I realized in the coming days that he actually didn't like it at all and prefered the clean-shaven look. Which, of course, was just him being an ignorant little douche, but still. I wouldn't automatically just assume that a guy is giving you The Compliment to End All Compliments by comparing you to porn.
Geez, what's with all the negatives, guys? All I did was offer a different perspective that I received from a different guy. Sorry if it goes against your opinion or whatever, but...actually, no I'm not =)
My BF was loud & it was a total turnoff. His teenage son was in sleeping in the other room & that’s all I could think about. It was kinda creepy.
BTW…, It’s just sex if he is comparing your to a porn star. No making love there.
Well, that's not true. Ever heard of something called being a lady in the street but really dirty in bed? You can't say that he doesn't love her, just because the sex is great.
That's the second time in like, a week that someone has made the gross overestimation that being dirty in bed=no love. I mean...really? Just because you rock a guy's world in bed doesn't mean he sees you as a sex toy.
Maybe some people are jealous that they've never received such a compliment? Just a thought...
I don't know about too loud, but I know there's such a thing as being too fake! Trying to keep it down because you feel self-concious probably won't do you any favours.
Not sure about too loud, but being too quiet sucks. Gotta let 'em know what you want and if what they are doing feels good or not.
Well for me I am definitely a screamer/talker in bed. I tell the guys that if i am quite and you are not getting me to moan and be vocal you are not hitting the right spot, doesn't mean that it doesn't feel good, just means that well your not hitting that OMG F*CK ya spot!! lol I have been complemented several times. If i am getting off its really hard for me to stay quiet. My bf once got me off so well that the next morning when my neighbor had seen me said "hey babe, next time try not to be so loud you wake me up while your having sex!" lol i was embarrassed but to tend to make sure that my window isn't open lmao.
My bf is really turned on with how vocal i am, and he gets in on the dirty talk himself, and lets him know that what he is doing is indeed working and having me want more. The same goes for him as well when i please him he vocalizes an Oh shit and does the occasional moans here and there, its a turn on for me as well and in turn lets me know what really gets him going!
I agree with RedneckGirl, a little bit of feedback and direction only benefits you and your partner, you get what you want and in turn he learns what blows you away to Orgasm heaven!!! I do it all the time with my man, the phrase of "Right there, or Like that, even harder!" all tell him what it is i am wanting.
I think your guy was probably not only surprised but turned on with being with a girl who was a vocal as you! Maybe he has only had the silent girls in his past. you screaming like a porn start just boosted his ego 100X's so be proud and embraced your porn star scream! :D