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Is there such thing as being too hot? My boyfriend is british and I am latina. He seems overwhelmed by my sexuality. So far it seems like a good thing, but he talks about it so much its making me wonder whether I should tone it down a little. I'm not sure why but I feel I might lose his respect..

Let's define our terms first, then get to the business of answering your question.

Hot: Used here to describe sexuality, passion, and emotional expression.

I just wanted to put that out there to frame the conversation, so that we don't get angry comments that say things like "You think you're too beautiful? Go to hell!"

Clearly, when you say "hot," you're talking about sexuality and any outwards displays of sexuality. Perhaps it is how you dress, how you talk to him and his friends, and, of course, how you are in the bedroom.

I wouldn't want you to tone down any of what makes you who you are. Your boyfriend is attracted to you because of who you are, not who you might be if you dress more conservatively or have less fun in bed. You're not going to lose his respect. He likes you for who you are.

That said, if you want to talk to him about it, talk to him about it. Ask him why he mentions your sexuality so much - is it because he loves those aspects of your personality, or is it because he's still getting used to them? If you have any concerns, that conversation with allay them.

Keep being who you are. All people, as a rule, should be too hot.

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He probably just remarks on it a lot because to him it is remarkable. He probably isn't used to girls like you so it's probably taking him time to adjust to it, and that involves talking about it more than he realises. There's no need to rush him or be overly confrontational about it, just wait and see if having a sexy girlfriend will seem perfectly natural to him given time!

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OP here.. Thanks for your imput guys.. MM you give the best advice! It seems like a good thing that he's into my hotness, I've just never had a guy emphasize it so much. Its mostly in the bedroom, I'm pretty reserved otherwise.

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HaHa! Join the club, OP. I've gotten "hot" a looooot of times from white men (mostly Americans and Europeans), and that's not even talking about being in the bedroom (since I am really reserved too). They compliment my skin and dark hair, eyes and petiteness. That and the grace of movement (dancing lessons are key to me! lol). But the most flattering is that I always hear them say I look younger than my actual age (moisturize, I say!).

No need to change anything, girl! I revel at compliments and return them graciously. I think it's fair to let him know you're into him (and his hotness) too! :)

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