I have tons of men friends. Several of them are my bestfriends. And none of them crossed the line. Our relationships were completely platonic and have survived the toughest times. I go to them for advice and vice-versa, hang-out, be their doting mother too when they get all sick or even frustrated with life. So it's really possible.

But as RP implied, once you go to bed and then expect to just be friends, that's a stickier story.

And oh yeah... I could hug them anytime too.

Sorry. After having about 50 guy 'friends' end up hitting on me and walking away once I wouldn't return the sentiment, I no longer believe it. I have one guy friend, ONE, who has never hit on me and we have known eachother since we were young.

As a guy once told me, if a guy is friends with you, he'd bang you unless you fall under an exception...such as knowing eachother since childhood. Or he's gay. Or you are...so on and so forth.

Totally agree. I find my best guy friend totally attractive. We've even crushed on each other once, but we've never crossed the line. We stay in friend-ville.

I believe that men will only be friends with women that they are attracted to. How many men do you know that are friends with a lesbian?

I have always gotten along better with guys than girls, and most of my closest friends are guys. I find the easiest "zone" to be in is a "sister" type zone. My older brother's roommates are the ones I go to for everything, and they come to me. They see me as a younger sister.

You think they see you that way. You're wrong. You women need to get some more honest guy friends.

Guy friends have used me to keep their girlfriends in line. Like if they broke up, I could be next up... But in truth I was behind the scenes listening and giving relationship advice as these guys were desperately in love with their girlfriends. Good guy friends look out for you and your best interests - they do NOT try to gain sex under false pretense... Men and women can be real friends with each other depending on the individuals involved.

This is my theory, at some point, there was an attraction, say the guy found the girl attractive, then began to pursue her and ended up just being friends. Or the girl at one point liked the guy, he was not interested, so they became good friends. The attraction feelings were never felt at the same time, or were never acted upon by either party, thus allowing them to be friends. But I think initially, no guy seeks a female friend for the sake of just being her friend, I mean honestly, it's biology. With that said, I have a ton of guy friends who i've discussed this theory with and they've confirmed it true for them. Lol.

"Just because people can have sex with each other doesn't mean they automatically want to have sex with each other. As you may have noticed, people do not run around in public just slamming their compatible genitals together, grunting for a few minutes, and then sprinting to the next compatible person. It'd be highly entertaining, but we'd never get anything done."

Hilarious. Made my day. Thanks, Dan :)

Of course it's possible. With the exception of a few women I trust and who don't annoy me, all of my friends are men. And I'm not sleeping with any of them nor do I want to. I wouldn't hook up with a friend, did that once before and it was disastrous. Now friend zone stays friend zone.

I have a big group very good male friends. One or two got drunk and hit on me when I first knew them, but apologised and made it clear that they value our friendship. I guess a lot of them are attractive, and I've had a crush on one or two from time to time, and know that a few have liked me as well... but like Dan said, we've always chosen not to act on any of that, due to loving each other in a very platonic way the rest of the time!
Also helps now that I'm in love with one of their best friends!!

hmm how about post sex? If you weren't friends before, how many make an effort to befriend an ex, or even ME pretty much a ONS! That I find really confusing.

i am a guy. we do not initially become friends with you for teh sake of being friends. sorry to sound harsh, but we are just wired that way.

I'm sorry, feminine, cute girls are never "one of the guys" and I'm not sure how this became such a popular notion. I know this sounds outrageous and that's fine, because it's not something people like to admit. I have guy friends, sure. But, any (straight) guy who calls you to catch up, or just wants to hang has some sort of angle. Maybe he knows his place in your heart is as a friend and he is mature enough to accept that, but then notice how he loses touch when an actual romantic potential roles around...

This topic fascinates me. Married or guys with significant others or otherwise in love with someone else can be "just your friend". They are taken and because you have things in common have other things to discuss. The friendship is beneficial to both of you... If a so-called friend is just trying to get you alone - there is something he wants and that's not friendship... I was single most of my unmarried life and hardly even ever dated. Thank goodness for friends - male and female.

This IS fascinating! I can't really say how it is. I'm thinking back, most of my guyfriends have had some kind of crush on me at some point. I studied in a class where there were only guys, and there was really only few I came close with - nerd guys aren't as see through as clichés want us to believe. >_> One of them told me that there's just not one straight man who'd never think about bedding their friend chicks - and in all honesty, I've had my fantasies about some of my friends. I am bi and I have bi girlfriends, and just like with the chicks, I'd never do anything with the guys either. Somehow the sex just messes everything up.

All in all, I have to agree that guy might have some kind of an agenda, gets friend zoned and realises he is content that way. But I don't think it's "omg want sex plz" -agenda, it's more of an ego boost knowing that chicks accept, talk and are nice to him. We're sort of practise dummies? ;)

Reading through all of the posts, I notice a common theme: the friendship has some amount of attraction. Which tends to prove my first post that my opinion is that men will only be friends with women they are attracted to.

Ok so how about this...my boyfriend's room mate is his ex. Initially I was nervous about this (getting involved with this guy) but in being around them both...alot I can say with 100% certainty there is no sexual attraction there at all. She and I have become good friends as well, never thought something like this would be possible but they/ we are living proof.