I’m not going to sugarcoat this – it’s more than a dry spell. If you’ve wanted a date for ten years and haven’t been able to get one, then something needs to change. I’m not going to say that there’s something wrong with you, because that’s both cruel and inaccurate. But I will say that there is something, or a few somethings, about you that seems to be pushing men away.
I don’t want to go through the exercise of trying to track down what precisely is creating a bubble of inaccessibility or undesirability around you. But I will ask one simple question, and I want you to answer it truthfully.
Do you like yourself?
Because if you don’t like yourself, it’s going to be very hard for other people to like you. A lack of confidence, or a feeling of desperation, or constant talk of disappointment are all very clear signs that you don’t like yourself. And that is a huge turnoff. No man in the world will date someone out of pity.
So, my one piece of advice is to find something you love about yourself, or several things you love about yourself, and redefine your self-image based on that love. Embrace your passions, and be vocal about what you care about. That is how to attract good guys if you haven’t been.
Well, that and an online dating profile. Best of luck and keep your head up.
Ladies, any thoughts for this woman? Have any of you joined the dating game late?