He probably doesn't want anything serious being that he is recently divorced. He may really like you, but you may end up being a rebound without him even intending for you to be. YES, rebounds can last a long time. It's just this, thing, where people who jump into a relationship with someone else right after a long serious relationship just can't seem to fully love that person even if they end up being with them for a long time. People need time to heal, time to register the divorce/breakup in their minds, doing that while you're with someone makes them a rebound, and isn't fair to either person.

My suggestion would be to take a break from him, give him space, let him figure things out. A year? You're both wasting your time until he's fully coped and let go of the divorce. You have to understand he has to do that on his own. Tell him you don't want to leave him but that you can't deny that your needs/expectations of a relationship aren't being met. Tell him that there's no one else but him, but that you need to be with someone who can/will give and receive love, and that you can't stay in a relationship that isn't moving forward. Tell him when he figures out what he wants, he can give you a call, and if you're still around, you'll talk.

I'm kinda in the same boat with my man, he's not a divorcee but it's been over 6 months and we haven't said "I love you" yet, which is a bit weird to me because we are together nearly every day and night. I think he's uncomfortable being intimate emotionally. He'll hold my hand all day but when I look into his eyes he says, "why are you staring at me??" lol. I have been unable to "connect" with him on that deeper level, it feels like he puts up walls, or maybe he just doesn't know how? I asked him how he shows love to loved ones, his response was, "watch tv together, eat together, bang." seriously lol what a typical guy response right? But as I've gotten to know him better, he says that "Love" to him is being best friends with someone and committing to them. I agree that love is more true when you are best friends with your lover on top of everything else, but to me, you can't have only the bond of friendship, you need passion, romance and affection too. He doesn't seem to need anything but friendship and exclusive sex.

I know being sexual too soon can be a barrier to love, as the relationship takes on more from the lust side of things than the friendship side, but perhaps I made him wait too long? I didn't give in to sex until I could see that he genuinely cared about me, which took 6.5 weeks from our first date. Now, most days he feels more like a friend than a boyfriend, which is a barrier to me falling in love with him!

He hasn't had many serious gfs, (not due to being a player btw), and his last ex cheated on him and didn't really even show any remorse/guilt for it, her exclamation was, pathetically, that she "couldn't control her emotions" when she fell in love with another guy. This makes me think he must be putting up some walls due to trust issues - he's quite possessive of me too which could be linked to trust issues but maybe not. But so when I ask him what he thinks about us not saying "I love you" to each other after this long of being together, he says nothing is holding him back from falling in love with me, that it just takes time, he also said he thinks he fell in love with other girls too soon and doesn't want to do that with me, that he wants to be sure he means it when he decides to say it.

To me, it makes me feel like, if we don't love each other by now we never will, shit or get off the pot kind of thing. Our friendship meter reached 100% and our romance and affection meter has never reached more than 50% which is completely fine for him, and not satisfactory for me. So I know why I can't bring myself to fully love him, but I still don't know exactly why it's taking him so long to love me, or even if I want him to love me at this point.. might as well keep the friend, right?