I don't know what the deal is, but I can see how that would worry you.
I agree that 28 is too old to still live at home, but he might have a good reason. Is he saving money for his own place? Are his parents old or ill and in need of his care? Is housing expensive where you live? Or maybe they're just close and enjoy being together. I'm sure you've asked him why he still lives at home. What are his reasons?
The fact that he works and pays rent says something. It would be different if he just lived there rent-free, eating all their groceries and lying around all day in his jammies smoking weed and watching TruTV. It would also be different if there were other areas in his life where he seemed too dependent on his parents, like not wanting to be away from them for long or not being able to make a decision without their input. If that's not the case, if he functions as a responsible adult in every other way, then this seems to be the only blip on an otherwise clear radar, and, in my opinion, nothing to worry about. Yet.
Read the questions here on Guyspeak and you'll see that good guys can be hard to find. Yours sounds like a good catch who deserves the benefit of the doubt. If months pass by and you don't see him making any effort to cut the cord with them, then you can worry. For now it doesn't sound like a big deal to me.
If he's still there in six months, write me again.
I'm nearly 31 and still living @ home. Times are really tough right now. I would give him a chance to explain himself.
I absolutely love your responses! Great answer.
Great answer, I agree. I say ask him about it. He may have some good reasons for why he's still there. I wouldn't jump to conclusions without at least hearing what he has to say about it. Express your concerns if you have any to him, but let him explain his side too.
Here's my beef with that. Where are you supposed to have sex?!?!! I hate acting like a teenager and sneaking around. At least with a roommate you can just close the door and be a little quieter. It's different with family. I need a place where I can get loud and dirty. To the point where the neighbors would think about calling the cops.
You just can't do that at big mama's house.
Why can't you have sex at her house?
I think this is a perfect answer.
like not wanting to be away from them for long or not being able to make a decision without their input
That's my BIL, to a tee. He recently got married and lives with his wife in a house where he pays the mortgage, but the mortgage loan is in his parents' names. He's over at their place every day and calls them several times/day. Even though he's 35, married, and has "his own life," he's still acting like a teenager with how attached he is to mom & dad. It's kind of weird.
My point is that he'd better have a good reason to live at home at age 28.
Ok, if you think still living at home at 28 is weird (not arguing unless there are "circumstances"), I have a guy friend who still lives at home at 42 (42!!!!!) and wonders why he doesn't have a girlfriend. Nice guy, but still.....