He's not into labels. HA HA HA!
Um, sorry to laugh, but his creativity is funny -- in a pathetic sort of way. We men come up with all sorts of great excuses, but that's a good one. I salute him on effort, if not intent.
What it means is that he doesn't want to be exclusive with you. He likes you but he wants to be free to see other women. Can't say I blame him; two months isn't that long. But every relationship is different and I don't know yours, so to each his/her own. You just have to decide if you're open to him dating other ladies.
Good luck.
Um, sorry to laugh, but his creativity is funny -- in a pathetic sort of way. We men come up with all sorts of great excuses, but that's a good one. I salute him on effort, if not intent.
What it means is that he doesn't want to be exclusive with you. He likes you but he wants to be free to see other women. Can't say I blame him; two months isn't that long. But every relationship is different and I don't know yours, so to each his/her own. You just have to decide if you're open to him dating other ladies.
Good luck.
Ay-yi-yi! Yes, I agree. It means he doesn't want to be labeled as being your boyfriend or anyone's boyfriend apparently. He sees the boyfriend label as too limiting and wants to remain untethered, at least at the moment. He could have and probably should have found a better way to tell you that. He may change his mind in the future, but for now, if you are still interested in him, you had better be OK with sharing him with others.
You guys are so cynical. Maybe he was just professing his distaste for our exploitative, label-obsessed fashion industry.
Well, my boyfriend does refer to me as his girlfriend. He took me to his hometown within the first 3 weeks of dating to meet his parents, aunt, and grandma...all in one day. I'm not a typically emotional girl...I'm not good at being sappy, and romantic, and all that crap...so, I was kind of overwhelmed because I've never brought a guy home to meet my family because...well, I've never found anyone I wanted to bring home. Anyway, after 6 months of "together, but not really together"...I decided to bring him home to meet the family. After that weekend, he did a total 360. He started calling a billion times a day, he ended up officially calling me his girlfriend, and even said "I love you." I had told him way before we started dating that I'm NOT the girl that will say "I love you" just because someone else says it first...so, obviously I didn't say it back. But, he understood. Anyway...ever since that weekend...he introduces me as his girlfriend to his friends and family, he's planning Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings for BOTH of our families, etc. But...he STILL hasn't changed his Facebook status. And when I bring it up, he says "why do you need to label everything?" Granted, it's just Facebook...so, it wasn't a big deal when I initially asked...but, now that he's protested...it's a big deal. Isn't introducing me to everyone as his girlfriend a "label" anyway? What's the difference between a verbal notification of being in a relationship, and a Facebook e-lationship?
You're right, what IS the difference between telling close friends and family about your significant other and broadcasting it to your co-workers, maybe your boss, old high-school classmates, old college classmates, current classmates, the occasional professor, friends of friends, friends of friends of friends you met once but liked enough to click a button to friend them, your old roommates, people you met traveling abroad, people you met volunteering, people you just met, people you haven't talked to in years, etc.
Point is: the people who matter know about your relationship and he's obviously not hiding anything and even including your family into his plans. Why make a big deal of him not letting everyone between his old english lit partner and the new guy at the office know?
Well, like I said...it isn't a big deal...or, it wasn't UNTIL I asked him about it in a joking-manner one night while he was playing Farmville (haha Okay, I promise we're 23 and not 14)...but, when he got semi-defensive and went into "not-labeling"..that's what made it awkward for me. Trust me, I'm satisfied either way, but my concern didn't come UNTIL he protested the FB status. Which, as I said...I know it's JUST a Facebook status, so that part isn't the part that concerns me...it's the *reason* that concerns me.
You have to be 14 to play Farmville?
Oops.
hmm... I'd be offended, too!
Means he likes you enough to hang out, but not enough to be exclusive or be your boyfriend. I generally believe that things are what they are, and you can't expect them to change. If you want a boyfriend or exclusive dating-partner... move on.
Regarding the Facebook thing... in general I am a big proponent of having your relationship on FB, because it's the one true way to make sure a guy is not dating 2 girls at once. Now, he could still be your BF/husband and have a mistress... but he can't have 2 genuine girlfriends at once. Some guys are less open though... and sometimes, it can be the family. Guy I am dating right now has family on his FB, and in his culture, you don't really date... so, no FB status there. So, take each case individually, but I see it as a red flag. Talk about it. Try and really understand the issue, and make sure he understands why you feel the way you do. Maybe he will come around, or maybe you will. :-)